Grudges and Ashes This weekend I gathered with family to say final goodbyes to an aunt, an uncle, and a cousin. It was a beautiful day and perfect weather for a scattering at sea; the water was calm, peaceful, glass-like as the ocean gathered in their ashes. The flower petals swirled above them in a fluid dance before slowly sinking beneath. Memories of holidays celebrated together mixed with the white ash cloud, beautiful memories, painful memories, complicated memories, and then…release. Peace. On board, there are still squabbles among the Living. There is so much pain being passed around like a…