Tag: rebuilding

Showing Up, Even When It Feels Scary

WHAT IF I JUST… SHOW UP 💖🦋

Amazingly beautiful and powerful shifts can take place within us whenever we begin to allow the magic within to come out of hiding and just… SHOW UP.

Yes- that means that you will need to be seen, be heard, be counted- and I know that even just reading these words can cause some feelings of panic, without even taking a single step!

I get it, showing up can sometimes feel really scary. I know this intimately! You may have a story inside you that includes a time when showing up somewhere caused you pain, or even a traumatic experience. Even if this is true for you, I still want to encourage you to SHOW UP whenever you sense that little glimmer of wanting to emerge from your hiding place, that opportunity to be seen and heard. There are ways for you to do this safely, supported by a strong and understanding community that doesn’t try to “fix” you- they just witness you and hold space for you.

The more that you allow yourself to show up, on your own terms and in your own way, the closer you get to reaching your goals, living your dreams, and conquering your fears of being seen. You get to take control and be the star of your life story, not play a minor role or resign yourself to the random twists of fate. You don’t have to have everything figured out first, and you don’t have to be perfect (not a real thing). Just… Show Up. Show up for yourself. Show up for your big dreams, your side hustle, and your day job. Show up for the souls bumping around throughout the world, crossing your path each day. Show up for every single lesson that Life is teaching you, and know that those of us here in your support circle are rooting for you and cheering you on.

A Look Inside Your Walls

BUILDING YOUR BEST LIFE: At the beginning of the weekend, my fiancé and I had our “open wall” walkthrough of the new house. This is the home as it looked on Friday morning, just prior to the next round of inspections. We met with our GC/Foreman and did a literal walk-through of the property, while the expert told us everything we could ever want to know about it. We were encouraged to ask questions, and found it fascinating to learn not only about the specific materials used, but why the builder is so particular about what goes into each home. It was a good feeling to be able to see behind the scenes and know that we are getting exactly what we want, without corners being cut or important steps being hidden. Fascinating! (No, really!)

So of course, it got me thinking: When we are building our own best life ever, how important is it to pause and check in with ourselves as the Master & Creator of our reality? How powerful is it for us to inspect our own internal “construction project” and see specifically What we are putting in, & Why it matters?

I love to help my clients see that we build the home that our souls live in every day, with every choice. It all matters. And you know what? You really do deserve to imagine, create, & build your own best life.

Schedule a free consultation call with me today to get started!

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Building a New Community

My lovely new neighborhood, in the process of being built. It speaks to me in this way: Even as I am building a beautiful new life for myself, so is my community also in this energetic space of building something new.

You- my people, my tribe, the amazing souls who get me and with whom I most deeply resonate – we are building new lives. We are creating our own next level. We are defining what matters most to us and we are designing a community that supports us. I SEE YOU, I Love You, and I am here to support You.

Click here for a 20-second video of the sneaky-awesome thing I did in our new home!

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What’s the Job for Today?

A week ago, this is what our house looked like. The week before that, a concrete slab. This week more and more is being done, and we’re planning to stop by the building site over the weekend to see what is new. So exciting!

It’s not so different from building a new life for yourself. You create a plan, set it in motion, and get to work. Some of the phases move quickly and you see lots of progress! Bustling with energy! Super exciting!

Other phases are less active, less glamorous, less visible- but you’d best believe they are just as important and vital to creating the new life that you want.

So go ahead and celebrate along the way, share your visible transformational steps! Instagram that shit! But don’t skip the other steps, the harder steps, the quieter steps, the not-so-glamorous steps. Do the work, every single day- whatever the job is for today, do it. Even if it isn’t “Instagram worthy” do it.

Want me to be your personal coach? I’ve got space for you.

Want me to come and speak to your group, club, on your podcast or at your special event? I’m available! 💖🦋

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What Do We Do Now? Heal and Rebuild 

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In the wake of any disaster, whether natural or man made, the most immediate need is the lifesaving work of the first responder. Assess the situation, bring relief, create safety.  Rebuilding and healing for individuals and communities comes later.

 

[Disaster Strikes] During the national election results on Tuesday November 8, I was a complete wreck and in so much shock. Disbelief. Total meltdown. The truth is that the bubble I had unknowingly created for myself had been burst, and I was left feeling frightened, betrayed, raw, and very, very vulnerable. The reason I didn’t realize I had created a bubble around myself is that I have many, many friends with opposing viewpoints and political leanings. I have never hidden the fact that I am of a more liberal and progressive POV, and I don’t begrudge my more conservative leaning friends for their politics. We respectfully don’t agree on many things. I love that diversity of thought!  Still, when it was clear that my candidate of choice was getting kicked hard in the pantsuit, I felt a profound sense of sadness, and a palpable fear for what might come next.  I had an overwhelming feeling of panic beginning to set in because based on the racist, homophobic, sexist images I had seen throughout the campaign  I was automatically equating a vote for Trump as a vote for hate.  My heart was broken seeing the map turn blood red, thinking, “this cannot be true; we cannot be this hateful as a nation.”   That, to me, felt like a disaster of epic proportions.

 

[First Responder] Over the next 48 hours, I reached out through my social media platforms to offer a small light of hope to anyone needing it.  Letting people know they aren’t alone. Letting myself know I am not alone!  I reached out, and began pouring more of my energy into sending love & hope & healing to those feeling the same sense of loss, fear, hopelessness. I isolated myself for a good while between “hope breaks” and just let myself be sad.  I stretched, walked, prayed. I let myself cry hard (I mean full on ugly cry) whenever possible. I chose to keep my social media interaction minimal, and quickly diverted away from anyone being ugly (gloating, condescending, rude). My goal was just to stay in touch, show compassion, and create safe havens wherever possible.

 

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[Healing & Rebuilding]  Now is when the real hard work begins: healing and rebuilding. Spending so much of my time online is a big part of my job, but I can still choose how and where to put my energy.  I am always most interested in creating and fostering compassionate community, so that’s what I will continue to do.  I was totally shocked when my bubble burst, mostly because I had no idea I was even IN a bubble.  I need to acknowledge and own up for my part in this so that I never allow it to happen again.  I want to stay close to the people I am most comfortable with, but not at the exclusion of people with a different POV.  I value differences of opinion and experience, and I will always welcome dialogue that is entered into with a spirit of mutual respect. 

 

This is where shit gets real.

  • I am actively seeking answers from those I care most about who voted differently than I did by creating safe spaces and times for us to dialogue.
  • I am making the time and lovingly listening to their fears & frustration.
  • I am choosing compassion for them and expecting the same in return because I am already in a valued relationship with them.
  • I’m purposefully not sharing divisive memes, stories or articles. If someone on my timeline does, I won’t hide them. I will either reach out to them privately if I feel it can open dialogue, or keep on scrolling.
  • I won’t entertain anyone just acting like an asshole though, and I will call out hate speech, racism, sexism, xenophobia, elitism, and homophobia each and every time.
  • I am sharing tools and resources that offer help, hope, healing, love, compassion.

 

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I believe our biggest need now is to connect with each other and understand wtf actually happened, how, and why. We each need to go beyond the vitriol and rhetoric, the sound bites and screenshots and memes.  I want us to see the humanity in each other, and I will work passionately for that outcome.

 

<3 My Tribe <3  Certainly, the people who I vibe most closely with, folks who energize and excite and empower me, these are the people I want around me and who I will to look to for inspiration.  But I can’t claim to be well-informed if I am only listening to the voices, ideas, views and opinions of those whom I easily agree with.  It does nobody any good to exist in an echo chamber.  I’m deciding now how to move forward together with those I can, build bridges for those with different views, and position myself more clearly as a voice of empowerment & hope.

 

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