Category: Friday Feels

Transformational Positivity for Shitty Days

A 3-Step Energy Releasing Practice for Your Self-Care

We all experience ups and downs in our personal energy, and we all have moments when we are feeling anything but “high vibe” and positive. Congratulations on being a human! One of my very favorite things about Transformational Positivity is that you will never be shamed for being a human, having emotions, or expressing difficult feelings. You will never be told by me to just fake-it-til-you-make-it. I don’t do spiritual bypassing around here.

I will never teach you to ignore any of the challenging things that you are feeling, carrying, or stuck in. You don’t have to pretend that everything is perfect all of the time, or force yourself to smile and look at the bright side only. Instead, my offering for you today is a simple energy releasing practice to use whenever you are bogged down with hard, heavy feelings and need to make some damn sense of it all. Basically, it’s Transformational Positivity for Shitty Days.

This is a simple 3-step technique I use whenever I need to get unstuck from my wallow:

1• UNAPOLOGETIC FEELINGS DUMP. Set a timer for 3- 5 minutes. Write or Say out loud whatever things you are feeling right now. Don’t censor yourself. It’s powerful & important to acknowledge the so-called negative thoughts, fears and hard feelings in order to learn from them, move through them, & release them. Even if you don’t magically find all the answers right away, the simple action of acknowledging your very real emotions can be enough to move the needle from completely immobilized to okay, there’s maybe possibly some hope here. Also, it’s a good reminder that you are not a robot and are allowed to have a shitty day.

2• I LIKE TO MOVE IT MOVE IT. Set a timer for 3- 5 minutes. Move your body as you are able to (dance, stretch, shake it out, clap your hands, walk, climb your stairs, roll your chair around, whatever) It’s okay to make some noise! Bang on a drum, clang some pans, ring some bells. Sing, shout, whistle, laugh, cry, hum, yodel, whatever. The motions created by your movement and the vibrations of the noise you make physically dispels stagnant energy.

3• BREATHE & BRUSH. Set a timer for 3- 5 minutes. Come back to your breath. Sit and take slow, deep, full breaths, noticing any areas of tension in your body (jaw, neck, shoulders, back, hips, etc). Send loving thoughts to the areas of your body that are carrying your hard feelings. Consciously relax tense areas. Massage or gently touch your temples, forehead, neck, shoulders, arms, hands, chest, belly, hips, legs, feet. Use your hands to “brush” your aura, which is the energetic space just outside of your physical body. You can do this with empty hands, or while holding your favorite crystals, a feather, leaf, or flower.

the blessings butterfly, mantra, prayer

Have you tried this 3-step method? Drop a comment and let me know how it went for you.

To learn some more Transformational Positivity techniques, take my online course How to Cultivate Positivity with 4 Simple Tools.

Love Notes

My fiancé and I don’t plan to have any kids together by mutual choice (I am a 1-and-done momma of a grown ass man, thank you very much).

We don’t have pets (he’s terribly allergic, and when my last two kitties finally crossed the rainbow bridge, I needed a break. Also we travel ALOT).

What we do have is an abundance of stuffed animals, some from childhood but mostly collected from our 6 years of dating. Some are tiny. Some are HUGE. Some help us sleep. Some help us manage days when our hearts are broken open (death of a family member or friend, empathy for suffering around the world). Some travel with us on our global adventures. All of them make us smile, and yes they spark our joy (thanks @mariekondo we 💖 you!)

Almost every day, I find one or more of these fluffies placed on my desk when I get up in the morning to work. Like a little helper, but really just a tender reminder, an unwritten love-note that I am seen, valued, and so deeply loved. 💖🦋

What little tokens of affection do you share with your favorite people? #theblessingsbutterfly #lovenotes #positivity #love #lovestories

Inspiration: 3rd Time’s a Charm

OMG, it’s still there! And it’s really beautiful. And it’s totally distracting, lol! I must look down at my ring 1000x a day. I love it though and Here’s the thing:

SHOCKER- I’ve been engaged twice before. Never married, just engaged to be. The first engagement was to my baby daddy and it was a million years ago and it was horrible. Grateful that we did not marry is such an understatement; grateful to have left that relationship with my life.

The second one was a considerably better relationship, but not without serious flaws and a cracked foundation as well. It ended with a broken engagement, some painful attempts to keep dating each other, and finally me finding the courage to let him go.

I spent the next decade plus figuring out who I am, what I want, and how I can give/receive Love in a way that is beautiful and healthy and whole and complete.

So, to be in this place again and NOT feel like I want to throw up and/or run away is pretty damn incredible. To be in this place and feel nothing but Love and Joy and Gratitude and Peace, to finally feel worthy of this, is beyond remarkable; it’s an amazing gift, and it’s the reality that I co-created. This is my life, and I couldn’t be more grateful for it. All of it!

#theblessingsbutterfly #powerofpositivity #youcanchangeyourlife #empowermentcoach #healing #love #selflove #youareworthy

#FridayFeels Goals & Dreams

Loves, Never give up on your audacious goals and your big, scary dreams. Take another step towards them today. 💖🦋

#theblessingsbutterfly #empowermentcoach #goals #dreams #inspirationalquotes #believeinyourself

Pay It Forward Friday

Sitting on my living room couch with the front door open to welcome in the warm, fresh, Southern California air, I was settling into my afternoon routine: some social media posts, folding laundry, and cat cuddles while my lunch was being warmed in the oven. My security screen door was locked, and the way the light hits it I can see out but you can’t see in during daytime. I have a “No Soliciting” sign on it that I made myself, because my location near the park unfortunately draws LOTS of unwanted solicitors. Some of them are so pushy and rude, some are super shady- I rarely open that door and usually just say, “No thanks” from the safety of my couch.

But not today.

Today, the skip-shuffle footsteps and sing-song chatter of a skinny little boy made it up my front steps, looked intently at my sign, and proceeded to knock. He reached his skinny little arms up and knocked right on the sign. I was laughing to myself as I watched, and then I answered him in my sweetest mom-like voice as I went to the door. “Hello!” I said. “Hello, would you like to buy some cookies?” he asked shyly. The clear plastic box full of individually wrapped cookies was balanced precariously on his hip, the dirty white lid removed and lying on my porch. He could not have been more than 6 or 7 years old, big brown hopeful eyes and a crooked-tooth smile.

I LOVE ENTREPRENEURS. And cookies. And super cute kids. Definitely going to eat cookies for lunch now.

“Well, those look good,” I said, looking around to see if there was a nearby parent. I saw a slightly older girl across the street, pitching her cookie sales to my elderly neighbor. No parents in sight, which always makes me wary and a little worried for the kids, even in a nice neighborhood like mine. “What kind of cookies do you have there?” I asked. “I got Red, um, Red Velvet, and Chocolate chip. 1 for a dollar, 3 for 5 dollars, or 8 for 20 dollars. That’s the Best one!” He said proudly. Nice pitch, kid.

“Hm, that does sound good. Did you make these?” I asked. “Mm hmm, yes. And the 8 is the Best! You can have some today AND tomorrow, or you can share them,” he said. No parents in sight, but he had a good sales coach somewhere.

“Okay,” I said, pointing to my Little Free Library beside the porch, “Why don’t you go ahead and pick out some free books over there and I’ll go get some money for you.” His eyes lit up, and he set down the cookie box carefully and went to pick out some books. I went to my wallet, hoping for a fiver, but only had a 20 dollar bill. Guess I’m getting 8 cookies today. I came back to the door and he had picked out a little book about cats. FOR SURE GETTING 8 COOKIES, I thought. “Okay here you!” I said, handing him the 20. “You want 8 cookies?” he said with a huge smile. “What kind, Red or Chocolate chips?” “I’ll take 4 of each please. What is your name?” I asked. “Shemar,” he said softly, then “Thank you,” then quietly asked me, “Do you have any juice or sodas?”

My heart. Then the questions flooding my mind: This sweet baby is thirsty, and how long has he been out here today selling cookies? Where are his parents? Where does he live? Why isn’t he in school? How can i help them?

I told him I don’t have sodas, but I would look for some juice for him. I took my 8 giant cookies and left him standing on the porch while I raided my fridge and cupboards for some food to give him. I loaded a bag with fresh fruit, some snacks, and a bottle of apple cider that didn’t get opened on Christmas. By this time, Shemar’s older sister had come over to join him on my front porch. They looked clean, and their clothes were in good shape, and they were very sweet and polite kids.

I handed them the bag of treats, and invited her to get some books too. She wanted something scary, but instead picked a book of poems. I asked if they were okay, and she said yes. “Thank you for the snacks,” she said to me, then to her brother, “Come on Shemar, let’s go.”

They gathered up their boxes of cookies and headed off down the street to make their next sales. I opened one of the cookies and devoured it while writing this post. If nothing else, I hope that they will know that they are cared for, and I hope they never lose their entrepreneurial spirit.

#FridayFeels Live Your Dream Life

How do I know that I’m living the Dream?

When I’m sitting in my cozy home office, recording a Sparkle Hour podcast episode with my beloved cousin and one of our hot shit dream guests, and I suddenly get a surprise drop in from my son… delivering me a gift of Venti deliciousness and $$!

I have a million more reasons to be grateful and tons of evidence that I’m living my dream life, and I want that for you, too. Big wins + little luxuries, joy + ecstasy, mind-blowing wonder + everyday eternal wisdom. Life abundantly lived. You, shining. 💖🦋

Reach out to me today to schedule your free chat and let’s get you on the road to living the life of your dreams. I would love to be a guide for you on your journey. 1:1 coaching packages are currently available.

#FridayFeels Visualization as a Tool for Positivity

Did you know that you can use the powerful technique of visualization to create more positivity in your life? It’s a simple and easy to implement tool that can move you from default-thinking about “worst case scenario” and allow yourself the possibility of something better… something brighter… something more beautiful for yourself and your life (yes honey, you DO deserve good things).

Try this exercise: picture yourself in a totally dreamy, once-in-a-lifetime scene. Imagine what it looks like, sounds like, smells like. Is it a job/career? Is it an exotic vacation? Is it accepting an award? See yourself as 100% arrived in this place. Now, just linger there a while and let yourself FEEL it. (Come back whenever you’re ready) Now- what would it take to get you closer to that in reality? You’ve got great ideas. Believe in your ability to achieve them.

If you feel stuck? Let me help you! Reach out via the link in my bio and let’s schedule a free chat. 💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #empowermentcoach #visualization #coaching #lifecoach #liveyourdream #liveyourbestlife

#FridayFeels So Positive!

People often ask me, “Michelle, how are you always so happy & positive? I want to be more like that, but ____.” The thing is, I’m not ALWAYS super happy, because, you know, I’m not a robot. I’m not Pollyanna either. But, I have cultivated a practice of looking for the Light, and finding the Positive in all of my situations and circumstances.

It began as a survival technique for me and became my modus operandi; it’s not *just* something I was born with.

I can teach you how to live with a more positive mindset too. Not with a lobotomy, not by slapping on a fake smile, not by adopting a willful ignorance- but by using powerful tools & proven mind+body practices that can quickly harness negative energy and put you back in a place of control over your own thoughts and emotions.

Chances are, you already know a little about or have heard of some of my favorite techniques, including:

  • Positive Affirmations
  • Visualization
  • Meditation
  • Yoga
  • Grounding or Earthing
  • Dream Casting
  • Gratitude
  • Forgiveness

Over the next few weeks leading up to the end of this year, I will be sharing a little more about each of these (and a few others!) here on the blog, through weekly Facebook Live videos, and in my private newsletter. I’m so excited to share my favorite tips with you!

For anyone who wants to go deeper, I am going to be offering a special 4 week class: Power of Positivity Workshop!


Dates for this exclusive event are 11/12, 11/19, 12/3, 12/10. This will be taught Live online in my private Zoom meeting room. Space is limited for the Live online class, so I encourage you to pre-register today if you think you are interested. That way, you’ll get first dibs when I open the door. Click here to pre-register. **BONUS: If you pre-register using this link BEFORE NOVEMBER 5 I will give you a $50 discount on tuition + a Free Journal!

For today, let me leave you with this: Always look at the bright side in your circumstances. It doesn’t mean ignore the shadow; respect it and let it motivate you to reach higher. 💖🦋

#FridayFeels For the Love of the Learning

Like the very best teachers, Life is always offering us valuable lessons, whether or not we are consciously and intentionally asking for them. We simply agree to show up, and there they are: life lessons designed to grow us, mold us, shape us, challenge us, better us, perfect us, and (yes, absolutely!) bless us.

Oh, sure- oftentimes these Life Lessons may at first look/feel annoying or uncomfortable or inconvenient or downright unpleasant, but don’t let that stop you from really examining what is being offered to you, what’s on the other side of it. Is it patience? Is it forgiveness? Is it confidence? Is it trust, or compassion, or love? Too many times, we keep ourselves stuck because we are unwilling to do the work that comes with learning the lesson.

Today, I invite you to set aside some introspective time to Ask, Seek, and Learn.  Ask:What do I need to know about this situation?  Seek:Get quiet and tune in to your deep, inner wisdom. You might prefer to do this through meditation, prayer, journaling, or doing a sacred card reading. Don’t be afraid to ask for a sign!  Learn: Now that you’ve set yourself up into an open & receiving mode, pay attention to the answers as they develop. Look for the signs that you asked for.  What is the Lesson you are learning?

If you are interested in working with me as your Personal Empowerment Coach, go ahead and click here to schedule a quick chat. These free 30 minute sessions are the perfect way to see if we are a good fit for each other before committing to a coaching session or series of sessions.

#FridayFeels Breathe in Peace

If you haven't heard it yet, and even if you have- let this be a sign to you from the universe and beyond:

Great job! You did it! You have much to be proud of! Focus on the good things.

You've done good work. You've faced fears and moved forward anyway. You've peeled away another layer of your own bullshit to reveal more of your beautiful soul and true self. You are a Warrior, an Angel, a Lighthouse.

Give yourself the gift of quiet reflection and spend a few moments in pure gratitude. Breathe in Peace, Love.

By August 4, 2017.    Friday Feels, inspiration