Loves, I am so looking forward to a few days of deep rest, how about you? Winding down the year for me means attending a few holiday celebrations, managing my stress levels by guarding my personal boundaries, celebrating my birthday (12/22) and enjoying a few days off with my sweetheart before welcoming in a new year. I LOVE my year-end rituals, which often include a love letter to the year passing; daydreaming and future-writing; choosing a Word, phrase or mantra for the coming year; a long, sensual soak in the tub; and a fire ceremony, to name a few. Some…
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Hello November! Fall is in full swing here in the Northern Hemisphere, and with it comes a somewhat jarring surge of consumer energy that may feel incongruent with what you observe in the Natural World around you. The shops ramp up their holiday displays and sales sales sales; FOMO messaging reaches a peak and holds tight through the end of the year, especially with a new decade fast approaching; year-end deadlines only add to the pressure. So what do you do to handle it all with Grace, Positivity and a bit of Sanity for yourself? Take a cue from Nature:…
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WHOLE SELF LOVE: a new series Oh, Honey- I have some things to say about this little #frenemy right here. It’s been a hot minute since I have shared much publicly about my physical body, and here’s why: Dieting Sucks Talking about dieting is capital B BORING Diet Culture is toxicAF The number on the scale does not determine (nor can it ever measure) my worth I know this to be True. You probably do as well! (And yet…) It’s why, for the past 4-5 years, I have made it my personal mission to learn how to Love the body…
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WHAT IF I JUST… SHOW UP 💖🦋 Amazingly beautiful and powerful shifts can take place within us whenever we begin to allow the magic within to come out of hiding and just… SHOW UP. Yes- that means that you will need to be seen, be heard, be counted- and I know that even just reading these words can cause some feelings of panic, without even taking a single step! I get it, showing up can sometimes feel really scary. I know this intimately! You may have a story inside you that includes a time when showing up somewhere caused you…
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Hello Loves! I’ve been working on some awesome creative projects for the summer/fall, and over the weekend I came up against a gnarly block that put me on pause and required some extra effort in personal development, self care, and deep healing. If you’re curious, here’s what my steps looked like: 1- Feel something unpleasant 2- Ask for help 3- Receive help 4- Accept help 5- Process unpleasantness 6- Heal a layer of self Thank you, Friends, for sharing your beautiful, kind, funny and cheerful words when I most needed them. Please know how powerful your words and your compassion…
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The biggest difference between Transformational Positivity and toxic positivity is that the latter doesn’t invite or encourage you to fully express the difficult feelings of heartache, anger & pain when you’re suffering from the very real life experiences of disappointment, betrayal, abuse and generally shitty behavior from other hurt, angry, unhappy humans. That’s not Transformation- that’s just bypassing. As a writer and speaker who values telling the truth AND is driven by a desire to ease our suffering, I often find myself in the sticky space of highlighting the transformation while still trying to honor the struggle. The struggle isn’t…
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The thing with Affirmations is that there’s a helpful way to use them & a harmful way. Helpful: recognition of old patterns, Love for & healing of old wounds, and finding the wisdom & strength to recalibrate your life in a way that serves you better and brings you Joy. Harmful: bypassing difficult emotions, triggering trauma without offering healing & perspective, and ignoring the true lived experiences that you have as valid. So please know this: when I share, I am sharing from a place of some level of my own healing. And I have come a hell of a…
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Ohhhh my goodness! Have you ever found yourself swept up in the painful and confusing feeling that someone else’s mess [shit] is being personally directed at you? I’ve seen this show up as people seemingly (or even actually) ignoring you, flaking out on their agreements, passive-aggressiveness, or even with rude/angry/abusive comments. Any or all of these things can be hurtful to you as an individual, and damaging to your relationship with the other person. For empathetic people this is especially challenging. You’re just trying to get through the day with a positive attitude but keep feeling bummed out by people…
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One of my favorite things about our new house (besides everything!) is the luxury of having a nice big open kitchen. I LOVE to cook, and bake, and get creative with food. The washing and chopping is a Meditation. The interplay of textures and flavors is Alchemy. The successes are glorious, and failures? Often quite spectacular. Life lessons abound. Sometimes, still, though not nearly as often as when I first started cooking as a young girl- my culinary disasters are so embarrassing that I cry and rage and sulk, angrily dumping the mess in the trash with SUCH scorn for…
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How many times have you been going through a difficult or stressful time in your life, and some (hopefully well-meaning) person comes along with advice like this: “Fake it ’til you make it!” “Just be more positive!” “No bad vibes!” “Smile, things could be worse!” UGH. That’s just really NOT helpful! I have been so frustrated with the fake positivity like this that permeates social media and the damage it creates in it’s wake. Humans, even the most enlightened, awakened, spiritual among us all still experience the very real, very human emotions that constantly get labeled as “negative” [read: BAD].…
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