Tag: compassion

Treat Yourself! Caring for yourself while caring for one another

Weekends are sacred in our home, a time for resting, relaxing, and restoring our bodies & souls. Sometimes that looks like tucking ourselves away, and sometimes it looks like yesterday did. Yesterday was a gorgeous, get outside, enjoy some fresh air & sunshine, get a little bit spoiled kind of day. Both are necessary. We visited our favorite fancy restaurant- the place where we were engaged- which has recently reopened with modifications to protect the health guests and staff. Then, we made our way down to the harbor to take in some fresh sea air and walk along the docks, daydreaming of owning a beautiful boat. It was fascinating to observe the contrast of these two public spaces and how one place felt clean and safe, while the other felt quite the opposite. The wide open space of the harbor was packed with people clustered together, very few people wearing masks, and fewer still making an effort to give space to others. I would be lying if I said this wasn’t disappointing to see, because no matter how many times I see selfishness on display, I am always hopeful that people will choose the higher way of caring for one another.

And- we are still living in a time when the coronavirus COVID-19 pandemic is still very much present, and doesn’t give a hoot about how long we’ve been quarantined or how much we would like to go get our hair and nails done or how much we miss hanging out with groups of friends or that we would just really like to go sit inside a fancy restaurant and be served. So how do we treat ourselves in such unprecedented times as these? We make the choice of maintaining a positive mindset and take the responsibility of caring for our physical safety. Whenever my husband and I do go out in public, and it is a rare occasion- we wear our masks & practice safe social distancing- including only visiting places that honor the safety of others. Our personal safety matters, and we are collectively responsible for making the world a safer place for all. It is not such a hard thing to do, quite honestly. We would rather be mildly inconvenienced by wearing a mask in public spaces and avoiding hugs from loved ones for a few more months, than to risk contracting the virus (something that I as a person who is very much immuno-compromised right now cannot afford to tempt Fate with) or passing it along unknowingly to someone else. For us, temporarily sacrificing some of our individual comforts is preferable when doing so means securing a safer environment for all in our community- especially for the most vulnerable.

Personal responsibility + compassionate consideration for others = safety for all.

Had to take my mask off to eat lunch. First time at a restaurant since beginning of March! We dined al fresco, our server wore a full face shield, occupancy was dramatically reduced and tables were more than 6′ apart.

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I March in Love

I’m excited and honored to take part in the Women’s March Los Angeles this Saturday, a sister march in solidarity with the Women’s March on Washington.
 
The event in our nation’s capitol is expected to have nearly a quarter MILLION participants. There are sister marches scheduled to take place in hundreds upon hundreds of cities across the country, so you can also take part and use your voice to demonstrate Unity and Equality for ALL.
 
I march for Women’s Empowerment worldwide. I march against Patriarchy and I march for Equality. I march for Peace. I march for Compassion, Respect, and Freedom. I march for the mothers who came before me, the sisters who stand beside me, and the daughters who will come after me. Above all things, I march in Love. <3
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#FridayFeels Kind & Compassionate

My Friday thoughts:  Kindness and Compassion are choices I can make every day.

I know that I’m an optimist and an idealist; people have been telling me so my whole life, as though in pointing out the obvious I will somehow change. But why? Who would benefit from my being less than who I am?

I want to live in a world where kindness matters. I want to be around people who are quick to show compassion for others and who model goodness regularly.

We’ve all seen enough of people being awful to each other. We’re well aware of what selfishness and myopia does to destroy community. We know full well that rudeness and cruelty run rampant if left unchecked.  This is why I choose to look for the goodness in people and cultivate a strong, positive circle of light around me. Darkness is only pushed back by Light.

I want to point us back to seeing the humanity in those around us, to remind ourselves that we are much more alike than different. It’s not naive- it’s actually pretty darn brave to keep standing up after being knocked down time after time.

My choice is kindness, my choice is compassion. I hope you will choose to join me in sharing these today. ❤️

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#FridayFeels : Compassion

Election years have a way of revealing some very deeply seated ugliness in a nation and its people. Candidates seeks the lowest common denominator to garner votes, and their most rabid supporters seem to lose their humanity, becoming angry robots fueled by hate & fear.

In contrast: I pray for peace daily. I call on a spirit of kindness, caring, and love to fall on me. I open my heart for compassion, because I cannot bear the weight of existing in this world without it. 

  

The Thirty-First Blessing: I am Complete

Blessing #31

In launching The Blessings Butterfly, I initially set out to write a simple book of affirmations, meditations, blessings and encouragements that would express to the people I love the most just how much they mean to me. I chose words and thoughts and themes that would empower the handful of people I had hoped would read it. Beautifully, in the process, I came to discover a new sense of love and acceptance and joy and freedom within myself. The blessings became circular, as they poured out of my heart and flowed over me and came back to me, in a perfect loop. Each Mantra unlocked a profound healing lesson as I explored layers within myself that were still carrying wounds, scars, and brokenness.

This is the culmination of all the blessings, and in reading them together, out loud, I feel a sense of empowerment knowing that I am complete.

I AM LOVED. I AM GRATEFUL. I AM STRONG.
I AM A GOOD PERSON. I AM HEALTHY & I AM WHOLE.
I AM KIND TO MYSELF. I AM PATIENT. I AM GENEROUS.
I AM FUN. I AM ADVENTUROUS. I BELIEVE IN MYSELF.
I AM TRULY BEAUTIFUL. I AM WORTHY & DESERVING OF GOOD THINGS.
I CHOOSE JOY. I AM COMPASSIONATE. I AM WISE. I AM POWERFUL.
I FORGIVE YOU. I MAKE AMENDS.
I CREATE GREAT MEMORIES. I AM CREATIVE.
I SEE BEAUTY ALL AROUND ME.
I AM SAFE & SECURE. I AM COURAGEOUS.
I AM GOOD AT WHAT I DO. I AM ALWAYS LEARNING.
I AM SUCCESSFUL.
I AM WEALTHY.
I AM HONEST.
I AM FREE.

When I work 1:1 with my private clients, these are the lessons that we address together. This is the framework for my holistic healing work, and my offering to the world.

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The Fifteenth Blessing: Compassion

Blessing #15: I am Compassionate

When we choose to be more compassionate to the suffering of others, we do much more than acknowledge their pain; we act in such a way as to help alleviate their suffering.

Compassion goes beyond feelings of pity. Compassion elicits an active response. It may be as simple as giving a donation to charity, or as hands-on as a heroic act of rescue.  Between those two extremes are a million ways to express compassionate action.

Empathy is similar to Compassion, but they are not the same things. Empathy is the emotional response that allows us to experience the emotions and feel the pain of another being. People with great amounts of empathy must be careful not to “absorb” the pain being experienced by those around them, including animals and even the environment, as it can be overwhelming and prevent us from taking any action. When we are confronted with graphic images of great suffering, it shakes us to the core. As an empathetic person, I have often heard the words “you care too much” or similar phrases.  I have come to realize that caring too much is not a bad thing, but a beautiful thing.

People who are compassionate are more than just “touchy-feely” or “too soft” though. In fact, there is scientific research that indicates there are pretty significant health benefits associated with the social connections formed through acts of compassion: strengthened neural pathways for increased and sustained happiness; reduced risk of heart disease; and lowered levels of stress hormones just to name a few.

To express Compassion for another human being is to understand love at the deepest levels of your self, and recognize that we are all connected.

By choosing to be a more compassionate person, I am creating a more tolerant, peaceful, and loving environment for myself and those around me. I care about you. I want to understand what is causing you pain, as though it were my own pain, and help you to relieve your suffering. I am allowing myself to be a difference-maker, not just an observer.  I am becoming the change that I want to see in the world by living a more compassionate life.

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

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