Tag: goals

Showing Up, Even When It Feels Scary


Amazingly beautiful and powerful shifts can take place within us whenever we begin to allow the magic within to come out of hiding and just… SHOW UP.

Yes- that means that you will need to be seen, be heard, be counted- and I know that even just reading these words can cause some feelings of panic, without even taking a single step!

I get it, showing up can sometimes feel really scary. I know this intimately! You may have a story inside you that includes a time when showing up somewhere caused you pain, or even a traumatic experience. Even if this is true for you, I still want to encourage you to SHOW UP whenever you sense that little glimmer of wanting to emerge from your hiding place, that opportunity to be seen and heard. There are ways for you to do this safely, supported by a strong and understanding community that doesn’t try to “fix” you- they just witness you and hold space for you.

The more that you allow yourself to show up, on your own terms and in your own way, the closer you get to reaching your goals, living your dreams, and conquering your fears of being seen. You get to take control and be the star of your life story, not play a minor role or resign yourself to the random twists of fate. You don’t have to have everything figured out first, and you don’t have to be perfect (not a real thing). Just… Show Up. Show up for yourself. Show up for your big dreams, your side hustle, and your day job. Show up for the souls bumping around throughout the world, crossing your path each day. Show up for every single lesson that Life is teaching you, and know that those of us here in your support circle are rooting for you and cheering you on.

A Look Inside Your Walls

BUILDING YOUR BEST LIFE: At the beginning of the weekend, my fiancé and I had our “open wall” walkthrough of the new house. This is the home as it looked on Friday morning, just prior to the next round of inspections. We met with our GC/Foreman and did a literal walk-through of the property, while the expert told us everything we could ever want to know about it. We were encouraged to ask questions, and found it fascinating to learn not only about the specific materials used, but why the builder is so particular about what goes into each home. It was a good feeling to be able to see behind the scenes and know that we are getting exactly what we want, without corners being cut or important steps being hidden. Fascinating! (No, really!)

So of course, it got me thinking: When we are building our own best life ever, how important is it to pause and check in with ourselves as the Master & Creator of our reality? How powerful is it for us to inspect our own internal “construction project” and see specifically What we are putting in, & Why it matters?

I love to help my clients see that we build the home that our souls live in every day, with every choice. It all matters. And you know what? You really do deserve to imagine, create, & build your own best life.

Schedule a free consultation call with me today to get started!

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Ready for a powerful and positive mindset shift? This #MondayMantra is exactly that: “My obstacles are designed to Redirect and Empower me, not to hold me back.” 

The truth is that we will face a variety of obstacles on the way to our goals, but this doesn’t have to be a bad thing! Tests & trials are all part of the game, and their purpose is to sharpen and strengthen us along our path. It’s only a setback if you decide that it is, so take the power back and find the lesson your obstacle is trying to teach you about yourself. You’ve got this! 

#MondayMantra YES I Freaking Can!

I may be The Blessings Butterfly and love to share the bright side of things, but even I get scared sometimes. 

Yesterday I was overwhelmed by a nasty case of fear and self-doubt. My ego was so scared, so intimidated by the BIG goals that I’ve set that it became downright ugly. I felt that old familiar panic rising in my chest, my eyes wide and filled with tears, my speech jumbled and angry and peppered with swear words.

Oh, did I forget to mention that I was sitting in a restaurant at dinner with my boyfriend at the time this all went down? Yeahhhhh… #awkward

We were talking about my work, and he very innocently asked me some numbers questions and how I was planning to meet them. Not an attack by any means, but my panic button went off inside me.  Tears, tapping fingers, Ugh!  Not my finest moment.   I assured him that he didn’t make me cry. No, it was my own fears that had crept up on me, my own self-doubt that made me cry into my chips & salsa.  We talked there for a few minutes more, and decided to take the conversation home when it became apparent that I was dealing with something more than spicy food. 

When we got back to my house, I showed him my newly completed chalkboards with my big, exciting goals listed out on them, and we talked some more.  He was a rock, calm and steady and sensible. I said, “I just need you to believe in me.” And he said the magic words back to me, “I do believe in you.”  Hugs. Kisses. More hugs, more kisses. 

I spent the rest of the night taking some quiet time for myself and working through the fears and self-doubt.  I reminded myself that I do know what I’m doing, and that I can ask for help at any time as I continue to build my team and pursue my dreams. I’m not quitting on myself, because I can freaking do this.


What is the Goal?

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This year is the year I’m focusing on transformation in my life. I’m looking to create something BIG though. Something deep.

I want to go wayyyyyy beyond “lose ___ pounds blah blah blah” and instead pave a way for people of all body types -including my own- to be empowered, to feel loved, to discover their strength & true beauty.

I’m not trying to be skinny again.

I’m not trying to look like a supermodel or a Victoria’s Secret ad.

I actually love my body as it is, but I really want to FEEL better in it. Have more flexibility, less pain.  Increase my strength & endurance.  Not have a panic attack when an occasion calls for a fancy dress.

I’m not even remotely interested in starting another gym membership because, sorry, I hate the gym. Always have, and I’m okay with that.

And damn it, I love to eat actual food. I’m all for eating clean and making healthy food choices, but there’s no damn way I’m going to give up things like flavor, texture, variety, chewing…

I KNOW there is a way. I KNOW what I am going to do. And I AM going to celebrate every minute of the journey!  Stay tuned for an opportunity to join me!