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Whole Self Love: a new series

WHOLE SELF LOVE: a new series

Oh, Honey- I have some things to say about this little #frenemy right here. It’s been a hot minute since I have shared much publicly about my physical body, and here’s why:

  • Dieting Sucks
  • Talking about dieting is capital B BORING
  • Diet Culture is toxicAF
  • The number on the scale does not determine (nor can it ever measure) my worth

I know this to be True. You probably do as well! (And yet…)

It’s why, for the past 4-5 years, I have made it my personal mission to learn how to Love the body I live in, every damn day. Regardless of my clothing size, weigh-in numbers, age, shape, wrinkles, lumps, flab, rolls, freckles, muscles, strength, etc ad nauseum. I’ve been helped tremendously on my body-positive journey by trailblazers like Jessamyn Stanley (@mynameisjessamyn), Amber Karnes (@amberkarnesofficial), Dianne Bondy (@diannebondyyoga) and most recently Tiana Dodson (@onebeautifulyes) who are all amazing and beautiful.

So, I pose these questions: What if Loving your Whole Self meant loving your entire body? What would it take for you to Love all your parts and welcome them into your Wholeness?

I’m practicing Radical Self Love & normalizing fat bodies, even as I continue to shed some weight & heal what’s hurting inside. I even have been taking a series of rather societally unflattering selfies as part of my whole-self Love medicine and posting them on my Instagram stories. (It feels insanely liberating, btw) I knew that I couldn’t begin to address my health issues without first being willing to really, REALLY Love all of me. Including the parts that weren’t as pretty, the parts that hurt, and the parts that were breaking down.

As of this writing, it’s been 3 weeks since I began a total shift in my relationships with food & exercise. With the help of an interactive app/virtual program I am not just learning about healthier ways to eat and move and less psychologically & emotionally damaging ways to think about those things, but I’m integrating these new habits every damn day that are supporting my whole self. I won’t lie, it’s been some hard word (first week was the worst) but through the effort I am putting in and the support received, I’ve seen and felt some pretty spectacular results, including my first 10+ lbs. shed; increased endurance; a dramatic reduction in pain in my back, knees, and feet; increased strength; no more chest pain or wheezing; no more bloating or food hangovers; fewer mood swings & more sustained energy; improved sleep and almost no more snoring.  All of this Love being poured into my body is coming back to me in these very tangible ways, and I am truly grateful. I am excited to see how much more my body and I can do.

More of this story to come, stay tuned!

Getting My Sexy Back

UPDATE: Since writing this entry in August 2019, I have developed a much healthier & more positive relationship with food, eating, exercise, and caring for my body in general. During the course of my program, I shed over 40 lbs.* (at an average of -2 lbs per week) and watched in amazement as my body composition began to change. I felt such pride at being able to go through my daily activities without feeling exhausted, and I have been delighted to have more physical activity, strength, and endurance become a natural part of my life. More incredibly, I have experienced the release of long-held pain in my body, specifically in my feet, knees, back and chest; released long-held beliefs about my worth being tied to my appearance; and released long-held habits of self-destructive thoughts & actions.

By coupling my mindset work with a refreshed self-care plan, I have discovered JOY in moving my body again, and I have developed a kind of confidence, acceptance and deep Love for the body that I have- lumps, bumps, folds, wrinkles, spots, flabby bits and all. How freeing to realize that I don’t need to look like a Victoria’s Secret model to feel sexy, beautiful, comfortable in my skin (things I never felt when I was an actual lingerie and bikini model).

It is my sincere hope and belief that I will continue to take good care of myself by using the tools that I’ve learned and keep learning. I have a great support system now to lean on when I need to, and I have empowered myself to be in charge of taking care of my Whole-Self… body, mind, and soul.

*No matter how much I stress that the size of my body is not that important, and no matter how much I believe and teach that you don’t have to lose weight before you can love your body- people are still always fascinated by my weight loss and ask me, “How did you do it?” So here it is: I signed up for Noom. If you would like to try their program for yourself, you can click here to use my affiliate link and get yourself 20% off.

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

The Bachelorette, Gaslighting, and True Love

Bachelorette Fans: Let’s Discuss 🌹 I think it’s pretty safe to say that we have all experienced (or have had someone close to us experience) falling for someone who is soooo not right for us. Someone who you are so attracted to, knowing full well that there’s just something “off” but you convince yourself that it’s not really a big deal, or justifiable, or somehow you can work through it together for Love. Someone who makes you second guess yourself, twist to conform, dumb down, or dim your light because it’s just too damn bright for them to handle. I mean, I get it- I personally have given myself away to men like Luke P. ( from Bachelorette Hannah Brown‘s season) in the past, seduced by the pretty packaging while blowing past all of the early red flags until it was too late to pull out of the relationship without a big mess. In my 20’s -and even in my 30’s- I was so entangled in the drama that I lost myself, my voice, my power, and permanently damaged some friendships and family connections as a result. In more than one such relationship, it nearly cost me my life. The injuries I sustained were physical (some I still carry to this day), but also deeply wounding emotionally and eventually led me to seek professional guidance from a great therapist or two. So, when I watch shows like The Bachelorette for fun and cheesiness, I can’t ignore the twisty feelings in my gut that come up when watching the Luke P. scenes. I recognize those feelings, because the truth is that our bodies hold our stories- for better or worse. We have a physical response that reflects our past traumatic experiences, reminding us that we don’t want to go through that shame and pain again. One of the most important messages I can ever share, whether I am speaking to a room full of women, or a classroom of young people, or 1:1 in coaching sessions is this: You don’t have to change or hide your true self to earn true Love. If you are stuck in a relationship (romantic or otherwise) where you don’t feel like you can really be yourself, I invite you to schedule a chat with me for some personal empowerment coaching. *And especially if you are in a situation that is not safe- call the domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233*
Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

SAPPY HAPPY LOVEY DOVEY

(i double-dog dare you to keep reading): Hi! I am Michelle Lewis, and I am so in Love with the most wonderful person! Truly, madly, deeply, beautifully in Love… and oh my goodness, it’s actually mutual. Reciprocal. Magical! It makes me giddy, and it makes me believe in miracles.

I spent waaaayyyy too many years in shitty relationships, settling for scraps and normalizing bad behavior. Accepting the unacceptable. Suffering abuse, betrayal, and a long list of other foolishness. And yes, there were a couple of good guys along the way, but heartbreak was my normal so cue the self-sabotage. Right? I know you know.

And then, something clicked inside. A switch flipped and I began to start listening to the teeny, tiny, glimmer of hope for something better, for a life that could dare to be… Happy.

It took plenty of work to face my inner shit-show and begin unraveling the tangle of old stories about not being worthy and not being enough. I hit up against some roadblocks on my path to healing, and when I was too stuck to figure out my next steps, I sucked it up and got some help. And you know what? It was awesome. It was freeing to admit that I didn’t know EVERYTHING already and that there is value in seeking the help & wisdom of someone who gets it. Someone who can help you to ask different questions, and empower you to find your own best answers.

Eventually, I began to see myself in a whole new light: I began to see the divinity in me, something deeper, my true Self. And I felt such Love there. Such acceptance. Such peace. I began to listen to her, and honor her, and give her what she wants & needs. I protected her with strong boundaries and gave her the freedom to shine & BE. And you know what? It’s made ALL the difference. I can finally LOVE myself, truly, madly, deeply- and in Loving myself enough to forgive, to heal, and to open up to receive Joy and positivity and so much Love in my life leads me to today, surrounded by 50 gorgeous roses, delivered from the most wonderful person, who sees the real Me and loves her, too.

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#theblessingsbutterfly #loveyourself #loveyou #loved #radicalselflove #sappylovepost #roses #positivity

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Love Notes

My fiancé and I don’t plan to have any kids together by mutual choice (I am a 1-and-done momma of a grown ass human, thank you very much).

We don’t have pets (he’s terribly allergic, and when my last two kitties finally crossed the rainbow bridge, I needed a break. Also we travel ALOT).

What we do have is an abundance of stuffed animals, some from childhood but mostly collected from our 6 years of dating. Some are tiny. Some are HUGE. Some help us sleep. Some help us manage days when our hearts are broken open (death of a family member or friend, empathy for suffering around the world). Some travel with us on our global adventures. All of them make us smile, and yes they spark our joy (thanks @mariekondo we 💖 you!)

Almost every day, I find one or more of these fluffies placed on my desk when I get up in the morning to work. Like a little helper, but really just a tender reminder, an unwritten love-note that I am seen, valued, and so deeply loved. 💖🦋

What little tokens of affection do you share with your favorite people? #theblessingsbutterfly #lovenotes #positivity #love #lovestories

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Amazed and Grateful

OMG. She’s almost ready! We took another sneak peek yesterday of our house and so much more has been done. The sweet brick motor court is completed. Exterior is 95%. And inside, oh, my… I cannot wait to share what’s going on inside. It’s Beautiful.

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I am amazed and so very grateful for the life I have, and the Joy that I am a co-creatrix of.

In my 20’s, my life was such a story of pain and struggle and desperately seeking to escape my suffering. It was a broken heart and a battered body. It was fear and fight. It was a wish for someone to save me, and it was a wish for something better. Little could I imagine then that the Love and the power to change EVERYTHING was not something external, but waiting to be discovered inside of me.

I promise, it’s also inside of you.

If you are finding yourself right now to be stuck, in fear, in pain, in struggle, in survival-mode… please, do not give up. Do not settle. Do not stop fighting to find your way out of the shit & up & into the beautiful, loving, joyful and safety-filled life that you so truly deserve. Help exists, and you are so fucking worth it.

💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #firstthoughts #buildingyourbestlife #inspiration #thereishope #loveyourselffree #selfloveheals #writer #author #speaker

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Building a New Community

My lovely new neighborhood, in the process of being built. It speaks to me in this way: Even as I am building a beautiful new life for myself, so is my community also in this energetic space of building something new.

You- my people, the amazing souls who get me and with whom I most deeply resonate – we are building new lives. We are creating our own next level. We are defining what matters most to us and we are designing a community that supports us.

I SEE YOU, I Love You, and I am here to support You.

Go ahead and schedule your free consultation call with me and let’s get started on our work together.

Click here for a 20-second video of the sneaky-awesome thing I did in our new home!

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💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #newhome #community #support #empowermentcoach #speaker

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Treasure Hunt

I’ve always been fascinated with treasure hunting, how about you? When I was little, I used to paint rocks in glitter and gold, bury them in my front yard, create an elaborate map (complete with burnt edges to make it look cool and really old) and gather a couple of the younger kids on my block to go find the buried treasure. They loved it, and it was such fun for me, too!

On my most recent international adventure, I did a grown up version of this by blessing and hiding these tokens on a tiny island in the middle of a beautiful lake (Lake Bled). Each letter corresponds to someone special in my life; I told them where to look, sent them a “clue” by taking a picture of the hiding place, and let them know that they are special to me & I was thinking of them.

See, the treasure is not so much about them finding the token, but in their beautiful journey to finding someplace amazing.

What are the treasures you are searching for? Is it improved confidence, courage to take a big leap, cultivating positivity or discovering how to radically love yourself & create space for more Love in your life?

 

If you need some help figuring out the clues on your personal road map, I am your girl. Call me for a free consultation and let’s see if I can be a personal empowerment guide for you on this next leg of your journey.

#theblessingsbutterfly #empowermentcoach #author #speaker #inspiration #love #positivity

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

I’ve Been Thinking

Dear Universe: I’ve been #Thinking about more ways to share my Love with you. With your people. With your creatures.

Through individual efforts and as part of the collective, sharing from my creative gifts that you’ve blessed me with and amplifying the good work of others who are moving in the same direction, with good intention, to foster healing for myself and for us all. 💖

I am not entirely sure what it will look like, but I know it is something powerful and needed. A community of healers, healing their own pain and sharing their gifts with a waiting world. Collaboration not competition. Wisdom and wonder, magic and science, spiritual, physical, meta- fueled by the deepest Love.

We are gathering, every day taking a small step closer to finding each other. There is strength in our numbers. We are waking up a little more each day, to our calling, to our true nature. I can feel the energy of the hurting and the healers, drawing ever nearer, seeking peace within and easing the suffering that plays out among us all.

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Do you feel it too? Where do you see yourself in this new awakening? 💖🦋

 

📸: Rodin’s “The Thinker” shot from my iPhone stopped in traffic in Philadelphia PA #theblessingsbutterfly #thinkingofyou #healing #inspiration #love #rodin #thethinker

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Thoughts on Faith

BACON? Nope. It’s a beautiful section of marbled stonework inside of St. Mark’s Basilica, Piazza San Marco, Venice Italy.

I found myself weirdly, simultaneously awestruck & kinda grossed out by the mind-boggling level of artistry and over-the-top display of riches throughout the sacred site. Reverent & Judgemental, Humbled & Indignant, Leaning in breathlessly & achingly Repulsed. And so goes my on-again, off-again, Hot/Cold relationship with all things Religion. (It’s not you, it’s me. And maybe also a little bit you.)

Religion to me always seems to feel forced, coercive, deceptive, manipulative, Dark, violent, misguided and fake. All showy and opulent and disconnected and so, so cold.

Faith, though, that’s something altogether different. That is, to me, a deeply personal connection to Spirit, to Love, to Light-as well as to all manner of suffering. Faith, or Spirituality, takes the view of all of Life as sacred and perfect and beautiful, without malice or judgement. It takes every mistake and covers it in Grace, every hurt and bathes it in Forgiveness, every brokenness and wraps it in Compassion. It doesn’t need to argue about who’s right and who’s wrong, it just LOVES.

Please don’t get me wrong- I absolutely LOVED seeing this cathedral and truly marvel at the beautiful artwork displayed throughout. Pictures just don’t do it justice. I just could use a little more Faith to move through this life, how about you? 💖🦋

Atop the loggia at St Mark’s in Venice, chillin’ with the 4 Horses

Nice Knockers

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#theblessingsbutterfly #theblessingsbutterflyinitaly #thoughtsonfaith #religion #spirituality #duality #juxtaposition #veniceitaly

 

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

When “Love & Light” Is Not Enough: What I Learn From Times of Conflict

It’s been a really weird week.

The theme I see recurring in my life over the past week or so is one of being in direct conflict with others. Not everyone, but certainly a very vocal few. These button-pushing battles have brought up some unpleasant emotions in me, including annoyance, frustration, and disgust. Anger and Indignation came along for the ride. A profound sense of sadness has shown up, but also a crystal clear resolve to press on has made her steel-hard, calming presence known. Oh, and then there’s the goddesses (more on them later). I haven’t felt this way in a long while, but it’s apparently necessary for my personal growth and healing, and necessary for my chosen role as a leader, teacher, guide, coach, public figure and truth-teller. The more that I choose to explore and embrace and express my full self, the more likely I am to encounter folks who don’t like me, don’t get me, don’t approve of me and feel emboldened to let me know.  I admit that this is uncomfortable for me as someone who loves to be liked. The thing is, when you decide to become more visible, more vocal, more vulnerable- you will get tested and you will be challenged. You will be misunderstood, and you will be called out. You may feel totally triggered or unfairly attacked, and these may be gift wrapped and personally delivered to you at a family gathering, by friends/acquaintances/fans on your social media, or from complete strangers. And it will be really weird.

Love & Light aren’t always enough.

I’ve spent so much time cultivating relationships with amazing, super high-vibe people who celebrate each other’s strengths & unique divinity that I forgot what it is like to engage with people who would rather stay small, who are stuck in their pettiness, who thrive on negativity, who are living only in their shadow-self, or who aren’t really interested in creating harmony because discord is their status quo. Total bummer for my sweet sunny peace-loving hippie Love & Light positivity vibe. One of the things that I teach with regards to Positivity is that you can still be a positive person without being a Pollyanna; that is, you can still find good things to focus on during difficult times BUT you don’t have to pretend that hard times aren’t hard, that bad things don’t happen, or that you aren’t allowed to show more than just happy feelings. I’d like to add to this that sometimes “Love & Light” are not always enough. Sometimes, the appropriate response to a truly shitty situation IS anger, indignation, annoyance, frustration, disgust, and/or a profound sense of sadness. Sometimes your circumstances call for you to dig a little deeper until you hit your rocky core, unlock the vault of your shadow-self and show the world a glimpse of your dark side. Not to hurt or harm anyone, but simply to acknowledge that she is there, like a guard dog with bared fangs holding fast to your boundaries. She’s your warrior-goddess self, and she’s a total bad-ass. Need a firm boundary set with someone who chronically oversteps and makes you feel like a victim?  Embrace your warrior-goddess self. She takes NO SHIT. She is crystal clear on her role, and when you call up her energy in your life you can bet that whatever you need to handle is as good as done.

Authenticity Matters

What I am learning from times of conflict is that authenticity matters. Speaking my truth and using my voice matters. Empowering others to be their true self by modeling it in my own life, matters. After going through so many years of either hiding or denying or obstructing the parts of my true self that didn’t appeal to the masses, or didn’t appeal to my family, or didn’t appeal to my romantic partners, I am now becoming much more comfortable with just being me- even when it invariably rubs some people the wrong way. There is an incredible truth and freedom to be found in the statement, Your opinion of me is none of my business.  I used to be so hung up on trying to gain approval from a wide group of people, that I lost sight of needing to be true to myself first and foremost. I worried that if someone had a low opinion of me that it meant I was somehow wrong or broken or unlovable, but that is just not true. I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, nor do I want to be.  If you love me and what I have to offer, that great! If you don’t, that’s okay too and I hope you find what you’re looking for. None of it matters if I don’t love myself enough to show up as me. In learning to be your true, authentic self- Light & Shadow, Strength & Weakness, Wisdom & Folly- is the essence of a life of integrity.  Some people will only be able or willing to see the parts of you that appeal to them, and will reject the rest. Some people won’t even be able to see anything appealing in you. It’s okay. Their rejection, though painful, doesn’t reflect on you; it simply reveals who they are and where they are on their journey. Don’t let that stop you from discovering and embracing and expressing your whole, weird, wonderful self. That’s how your people will find you.

And Now, The Goddesses

Here’s a weird thing about me: I’m fascinated with goddess energy- not so much from a religious or worship-centered place, but more so from the timeless characteristics these archetypal beings represent and how they can fuel us in everyday life. I can remember as a young girl being so drawn to studying Greek and Roman mythology, and later Egyptian mythology, while also being as enamored with witchcraft and sorcery as I was with the stories of Jesus the Christ and ancient Hebrew prophets performing miracles of healing and such. To me, there are valuable life lessons to be found in all of these and personally I think it’s weird to accept some of them as absolute, let’s-start-a-war, capital-T Truth, but to dismiss the rest as utter nonsense or worse, as “dangerous” beliefs. Here’s a brief alphabetical look at my bad-ass, warrior-goddess crew. These are my ride-or-die, steel-core, bad-ass babes whose energy I tap into whenever I need to find my backbone and do some really hard work: Anut (Egyptian) – a warrior goddess, defender of the sun god & protector of the king in battle. Athena (Greek) – strategic genius who preferred using wisdom to settle disputes. Bast (Egyptian) – war goddess of lower Egypt who protected the Pharaoh in battle. Macha (Irish) – a wild goddess who battles against injustices to women & children Minerva (Roman) – basically the Roman version of Athena Nike (Greek) – goddess of victory, whether in battle or in peaceful competition Pele (Hawaiian) – pissed off volcano goddess who will burn shit to the ground when necessary With these recent weeks being filled with a series of annoying personal conflicts, I’ve found myself going back to craving some time with my favorite goddesses. I have felt their nudges in my soul reminding me that it’s okay to speak up, to speak out, or to stand my ground. Not over petty shit, but over things that rattle my core. Their fierce & fiery energies remind me that my boundaries are in place for a good reason, and that I have every right to defend them. That I am WHO I AM, and who I am evolving to be, and who I am learning to love deeply, without apology for my existence.

Love First, Love Last

I will always first try to resolve conflicts with Love and Reason and Wisdom and Understanding. I will make every effort to respond honestly and lovingly when I am called out, whether it is to defend or correct or educate. I will always try to see all sides of an argument before making a decision. I may choose to disengage from the battle with you, if it is a fool’s errand to continue. I may sever the relationship and create a lava-strewn wall between us, if it becomes necessary, but even then- I will send you Love from the other side and hope that it finds you well.
Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.