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Summertime Self-Care Tips

Michelle Lewis – The Blessings Butterfly

 

Do you have a more relaxed work schedule during the summer months? It’s a great time to look at your Self-Care routine and treat yourself to something beautiful.

I was so grateful today for the flexibility to go enjoy some “beauty maintenance” (lash fill & mani-pedi!) before joining my sweetheart’s office dinner party tonight.

Self-care is so much deeper than a spa day; it’s really about taking the time to restore what’s on your inside.

So, what if you can’t take a day off or even a few hours?

Give yourself 5, 10, 15 or even 30 mindful minutes to do one of these:

  • breathe deeply
  • think some pleasant thoughts
  • have a power nap
  • do some stretching/yoga poses
  • take a nature walk
  • write about one thing you’re grateful for
  • drink some water
  • just sit quietly
  • eat something nourishing

Peace and restoration can be had with a quick reset. Set aside those stressful thoughts for a little while to clear your head and give yourself a much-needed break! You’ll come back refreshed and ready to go!

 

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Showing Up, Even When It Feels Scary

WHAT IF I JUST… SHOW UP 💖🦋 Amazingly beautiful and powerful shifts can take place within us whenever we begin to allow the magic within to come out of hiding and just… SHOW UP. Yes- that means that you will need to be seen, be heard, be counted- and I know that even just reading these words can cause some feelings of panic, without even taking a single step! I get it, showing up can sometimes feel really scary. I know this intimately! You may have a story inside you that includes a time when showing up somewhere caused you pain, or even a traumatic experience. Even if this is true for you, I still want to encourage you to SHOW UP whenever you sense that little glimmer of wanting to emerge from your hiding place, that opportunity to be seen and heard. There are ways for you to do this safely, supported by a strong and understanding community that doesn’t try to “fix” you- they just witness you and hold space for you. The more that you allow yourself to show up, on your own terms and in your own way, the closer you get to reaching your goals, living your dreams, and conquering your fears of being seen. You get to take control and be the star of your life story, not play a minor role or resign yourself to the random twists of fate. You don’t have to have everything figured out first, and you don’t have to be perfect (not a real thing). Just… Show Up. Show up for yourself. Show up for your big dreams, your side hustle, and your day job. Show up for the souls bumping around throughout the world, crossing your path each day. Show up for every single lesson that Life is teaching you, and know that those of us here in your support circle are rooting for you and cheering you on.
Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

The Bachelorette, Gaslighting, and True Love

Bachelorette Fans: Let’s Discuss 🌹 I think it’s pretty safe to say that we have all experienced (or have had someone close to us experience) falling for someone who is soooo not right for us. Someone who you are so attracted to, knowing full well that there’s just something “off” but you convince yourself that it’s not really a big deal, or justifiable, or somehow you can work through it together for Love. Someone who makes you second guess yourself, twist to conform, dumb down, or dim your light because it’s just too damn bright for them to handle. I mean, I get it- I personally have given myself away to men like Luke P. ( from Bachelorette Hannah Brown‘s season) in the past, seduced by the pretty packaging while blowing past all of the early red flags until it was too late to pull out of the relationship without a big mess. In my 20’s -and even in my 30’s- I was so entangled in the drama that I lost myself, my voice, my power, and permanently damaged some friendships and family connections as a result. In more than one such relationship, it nearly cost me my life. The injuries I sustained were physical (some I still carry to this day), but also deeply wounding emotionally and eventually led me to seek professional guidance from a great therapist or two. So, when I watch shows like The Bachelorette for fun and cheesiness, I can’t ignore the twisty feelings in my gut that come up when watching the Luke P. scenes. I recognize those feelings, because the truth is that our bodies hold our stories- for better or worse. We have a physical response that reflects our past traumatic experiences, reminding us that we don’t want to go through that shame and pain again. One of the most important messages I can ever share, whether I am speaking to a room full of women, or a classroom of young people, or 1:1 in coaching sessions is this: You don’t have to change or hide your true self to earn true Love. If you are stuck in a relationship (romantic or otherwise) where you don’t feel like you can really be yourself, I invite you to schedule a chat with me for some personal empowerment coaching. *And especially if you are in a situation that is not safe- call the domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233*
Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

When clouds cover your sunshine

Hello Loves! I’ve been working on some awesome creative projects for the summer/fall, and over the weekend I came up against a gnarly block that put me on pause and required some extra effort in personal development, self care, and deep healing. If you’re curious, here’s what my steps looked like: 1- Feel something unpleasant 2- Ask for help 3- Receive help 4- Accept help 5- Process unpleasantness 6- Heal a layer of self Thank you, Friends, for sharing your beautiful, kind, funny and cheerful words when I most needed them. Please know how powerful your words and your compassion are! I encourage you to be generous with them and share freely with the people you care about. Y’all know that I keep it real, and that means showing that even a little sparkly ray of sunshine like me gets covered in clouds now and then. And that It’s OK to not be perfect. It’s OK to be a little vulnerable. It’s OK to need and ask for support & validation. It’s OK to have a shit day, and it’s OK to trust in better days ahead- because they always do come. Yesterday was a tough day for me, and seeing your responses was very much a lifeline. So uplifting and a wonderful reflection of Light when I was deeeeeep in my darkness. That’s the thing with what I call “Transformational Positivity”… sometimes it looks like being able to battle a nasty bout of depression by asking for what you need, and trusting that you actually will receive it. If you are struggling today, please reach out. You do not need to suffer alone; you are Loved, you are needed, and you matter more than you may ever fully understand. 💖🦋
Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

It’s Really NOT Personal: When You Find Yourself in the Middle of Someone Else’s Mess

Ohhhh my goodness! Have you ever found yourself swept up in the painful and confusing feeling that someone else’s mess [shit] is being personally directed at you?

I’ve seen this show up as people seemingly (or even actually) ignoring you, flaking out on their agreements, passive-aggressiveness, or even with rude/angry/abusive comments. Any or all of these things can be hurtful to you as an individual, and damaging to your relationship with the other person. So how do you find the positivity in situations like this?

1- You have to start by recognizing that this is their shit, not yours. They are showing up to the situation in their own shadowy behavior through no fault of your own.

2- And while they may or may not realize what they’re doing, it’s your responsibility to protect your own energy and your peace. So don’t be afraid to remove yourself from their negativity for as long as YOU need to.

3- Keep your own space clean by taking the time for some introspection. Notice what feelings and thoughts come up in you, and address them. Extend the other person grace, first in your own heart and from a distance if necessary. Wish them healing & peace, without trying to “fix” them (that’s not your job).

Questions or want to chat about this? Schedule a free 30 minute consultation with me and let’s see where Transformational Positivity can help.

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Amazed and Grateful

OMG. She’s almost ready! We took another sneak peek yesterday of our house and so much more has been done. The sweet brick motor court is completed. Exterior is 95%. And inside, oh, my… I cannot wait to share what’s going on inside. It’s Beautiful.

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I am amazed and so very grateful for the life I have, and the Joy that I am a co-creatrix of.

In my 20’s, my life was such a story of pain and struggle and desperately seeking to escape my suffering. It was a broken heart and a battered body. It was fear and fight. It was a wish for someone to save me, and it was a wish for something better. Little could I imagine then that the Love and the power to change EVERYTHING was not something external, but waiting to be discovered inside of me.

I promise, it’s also inside of you.

If you are finding yourself right now to be stuck, in fear, in pain, in struggle, in survival-mode… please, do not give up. Do not settle. Do not stop fighting to find your way out of the shit & up & into the beautiful, loving, joyful and safety-filled life that you so truly deserve. Help exists, and you are so fucking worth it.

💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #firstthoughts #buildingyourbestlife #inspiration #thereishope #loveyourselffree #selfloveheals #writer #author #speaker

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

A Look Inside Your Walls

BUILDING YOUR BEST LIFE: At the beginning of the weekend, my fiancé and I had our “open wall” walkthrough of the new house. This is the home as it looked on Friday morning, just prior to the next round of inspections. We met with our GC/Foreman and did a literal walk-through of the property, while the expert told us everything we could ever want to know about it. We were encouraged to ask questions, and found it fascinating to learn not only about the specific materials used, but why the builder is so particular about what goes into each home. It was a good feeling to be able to see behind the scenes and know that we are getting exactly what we want, without corners being cut or important steps being hidden. Fascinating! (No, really!)

So of course, it got me thinking: When we are building our own best life ever, how important is it to pause and check in with ourselves as the Master & Creator of our reality? How powerful is it for us to inspect our own internal “construction project” and see specifically What we are putting in, & Why it matters?

I love to help my clients see that we build the home that our souls live in every day, with every choice. It all matters. And you know what? You really do deserve to imagine, create, & build your own best life.

Schedule a free consultation call with me today to get started!

💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #empowermentcoach #visualization #manifesting #buildingyourbestlife #newhome #personaldevelopment #writer #author #speaker #inspiration

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

What do you see when you look at me?

“Shut your face, Suzy Sunshine! What the hell do you know about real life?”

When you look at me, what do you see? Do you see: Confidence? Beauty? Strength? Joy? Kindness? Happiness? Positivity? A silly blonde?

Yes- I am all of those, but i am so much more.


To look at me now, you might never guess that I ever struggled, let alone felt pain, shame, and paralyzing fear for most of my life.

From early childhood, i suffered as a victim of molestation, bullying, and abuse. It played as a recurring theme throughout my teens, and later manifested as a man with terrible demons of his own- the man who became my child’s father. The man who nearly killed me.

I escaped from that situation with my baby boy and anything i could stuff in the trunk of my mom’s car, but i would go on to live in the hell of my nightmares for years- decades- to come. I tried numbing with drugs and booze, shallow relationships, and dat party lyf! Of course, it only carried more pain, more shame, more fear.

What saved me? Love. Love reached down from heaven and gave me another chance to live. Love showed up in kind, caring, REAL friendships. Love pointed me to therapy, to community, and to finding my true self. Slowly, i began the deep, healing work of forgiveness, learning to trust again, and walk alongside my shadow in order to find my Light. To discover who I really am: I Am Love, I Am Forgiveness, I Am Grace, I Am Healing. I Am Worthy & Deserving of Good Things. I Am a Warrior, and I Am Peace.

It’s why I AM so happy. So strong. So confident. So joyful. So positive. So ALIVE. And it’s what led me to this place, this chapter of my life, where I can finally help other women to heal their soul’s wounds, release their shame, and write a new, happy, empowered ending to their life’s story. You and I are Warriors, Love! 💖🦋

photo cred: Kat Squibb Portraits

Thoughts on Healing in the Aftermath

True Confession: Last night, I handled my heartbreak in the most awesomely adult way possible. I curled up on the bed in a fortress made of stuffed toy animals and just sat with my sad feelings for a while. Inside my soft, safe, quiet space I cried for the victims of yet another senseless terror attack. I cried for the unrelated loss of yet another cultural icon and music legend. I cried for the divide among people around the world who are more interested in defending their positions than in engaging in helpful dialogue to address our very real problems. After letting myself feel the full weight of the world’s pain and letting the tears flow like prayers from my heart, I got back up and resolved to take action.

Loves, if you are a positive & sensitive person like me, I know that some days you feel weary and beat up by the tragic events of the world. You get physically and emotionally tired of the seemingly constant stream of bad news and people arguing about their different views. You may feel the need to retreat from it all (news, social media, other people) for a little while, and I want to let you know that is totally okay. In fact, it’s a good thing to give yourself space to emotionally recover so that you can get back to being a bright, clear light of peace & healing. You can give yourself permission to take a time out!

Try this: For a few hours, turn off the news channels, log off of Facebook, Twitter, Reddit or any other social bullhorn. If you can stay offline for 24 hours or longer, that’s even better. Give yourself enough time and space as you need.

Connect your bare feet and hands with nature, talk to the trees, listen to the water. Count the stars. Meditate, stretch, dance. Pray, paint, sing. Play with puppies and kittens. Eat healthy and bathe luxuriously. Dream up your most perfect day…

And then, once you are feeling lighter and clearer again, do take action to create a positive ripple.

Try one or more of these positive actions: Hug and kiss your loved ones. Say a silent prayer or kind thought for each person you see. Let someone go in front of you at the grocery store. Secretly pay for the person behind you in the drive-thru. Send a small monthly donation to a humanitarian organization. Donate blood. Pick up trash in your neighborhood or along your favorite stretch of beach. Give all of the clothes that no longer fit your body to your local thrift store or homeless shelter. Tip your server more than 20%. Leave a kind note for an elderly neighbor. Send a text message to your friends with a smiley face emoji.

What else can you do that is a positive action? Use your voice!

Contact your representatives in Congress and thank them for their work, and let them know you want them to act on your behalf to support legislation that is important to you. Speak clearly and with kindness (that is a real person you are talking to). Call and use your voice. 202.225.3121

💖🦋

#MondayMantra You’ve Come a Long Way, Baby!

I took this photo of a fun directional sign on my trip to Norway earlier this year just because I thought it looked cool. 😎 Today I get to use it as the backdrop for my #mondaymantra and am struck by how TRUE this powerful affirmation is:

  “I have come a long way, and I am not done yet. I keep learning, I keep growing, I am stronger every day!”

Sometimes we all need to lovingly remind ourselves of how far we have come, just so we can celebrate where we are starting from TODAY. You can do hard things, Love. You can learn something new. Remember that you are a miracle and that your life is not yet over. Make today AWESOME! 

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