BUILDING YOUR BEST LIFE: At the beginning of the weekend, my fiancé and I had our “open wall” walkthrough of the new house. This is the home as it looked on Friday morning, just prior to the next round of inspections. We met with our GC/Foreman and did a literal walk-through of the property, while the expert told us everything we could ever want to know about it. We were encouraged to ask questions, and found it fascinating to learn not only about the specific materials used, but why the builder is so particular about what goes into each home. It was a good feeling to be able to see behind the scenes and know that we are getting exactly what we want, without corners being cut or important steps being hidden. Fascinating! (No, really!)
So of course, it got me thinking: When we are building our own best life ever, how important is it to pause and check in with ourselves as the Master & Creator of our reality? How powerful is it for us to inspect our own internal “construction project” and see specifically What we are putting in, & Why it matters?
I love to help my clients see that we build the home that our souls live in every day, with every choice. It all matters. And you know what? You really do deserve to imagine, create, & build your own best life.
Schedule a free consultation call with me today to get started!
When I’m sitting in my cozy home office, recording a Sparkle Hour podcast episode with my beloved cousin and one of our hot shit dream guests, and I suddenly get a surprise drop in from my son… delivering me a gift of Venti deliciousness and $$!
I have a million more reasons to be grateful and tons of evidence that I’m living my dream life, and I want that for you, too. Big wins + little luxuries, joy + ecstasy, mind-blowing wonder + everyday eternal wisdom. Life abundantly lived. You, shining. 💖🦋
Being a mindset coach can seem like a frivolous and fluffy profession; a joke, a sham, a hoax. Kind of like when I tell people that I’m a writer and they respond incredulously with, “You can make a living doing that?” After the stinging slap to my face has dissipated, I smile and say as sweetly as I can muster, “Yes, and I am grateful for the opportunity to use my gifts in this way.”
But it isn’t easy. The lessons I am learning about myself and the battles I continue to face in struggling with my own inner critic, my demons, or my shadow self, are incredibly painful at times. Healing is messy. And sometimes pretty scary- but always, ultimately, worth it.
And this is where mindset work comes in, opening the door with a shiny, gold-embossed invitation to step into your mess and do the deeper work of inner healing. To dig out the shit that has been shoved waaaayyyy back inside your closet, take a good look at it, remember why you kept it, and finally fucking deal with it.
It is not enough to simply say, “Change your mindset!” and expect that is all that needs to happen. Oh Honey, no. It’s a critical piece for healing, an important piece, but definitely not the only piece. All the mantras and positive affirmations in the world cannot substitute for doing the inner work.
One of the mindset areas where I am working on now (always?) is self love and worthiness. Let me just tell you, it’s hard. I will be moving forward for months, gaining ground, peeling away layers and layers of old pain and revealing beautiful parts of my deepest self, when seemingly out of nowhere I stumble and hit HARD into a stubborn box of self-loathing. I’m shocked by the angry, ugly words and feelings of fear and shame that lie festering in that box. I will do most anything to avoid opening it, and I would rather lock it up and hide it far back into a dark corner, maybe throw a box of shiny ornaments on top of it to help me forget it’s even there at all.
But it’s not going anywhere, is it. NOPE. And there is nobody who can take the lid off and sort through it’s dusty contents except for me. Even though it is totally up to me to decide when and where and how much I am ready to address my issues and begin healing those old inner wounds, I know that I do not have to do it alone. Neither do you! This is where we get to assemble our own team of super heroes: therapists, energy healers, prayer warriors, and life coaches who specialize in the areas where we need help. These professionals are gifted and ready to help us to uncover whatever is blocking us, and then guide us to be our very best self. Equipped. Enlightened. Empowered!
I will begin working with my own coach in the next couple of weeks, and I’m excited for it! Will there be hard things to process along the way? Ummm, yeah! For sure. Good things are on the other side of that though, and will ultimately make me a better coach too. I hope to share some of my best lessons with you.
Want to work with me to break through some of your own blocks? Schedule a free 30 minute chat to get started.
We all experience the so-called “negative” emotions such as Sadness, Anger, and Fear throughout our lives as a result of experiencing unpleasant circumstances or even traumatic events. It’s OK to feel these, and it’s important to express them in healthy ways. It’s when we avoid feeling them and resist expressing them that we develop Emotional Constipation, and the shitty feelings begin to pile up and block our ability to fully enjoy life.
Sadness untreated slips into Depression. Anger left untended turns into Rage. Fear left to fester turns into Phobia, and can further devolve into Hate.
The path back to peacefulness is available to all, but it requires you to travel lightly upon it. Unburden yourself bit by bit from the lingering pains of the past and step forward into a journey of self-discovery, healing, and joy! You are free to make new choices each day and you are free to just let that shit go!
I’m SUPER STOKED to share about someone who has almost always been a part of my life, but through the magic of Facebook we connected as adults and realized that we have an even deeper bond than just our family ties. My interview today is with my beautiful, brilliant and amazing cousin, Nicole Lewis-Keeber. YAY!
She and I grew up on opposite coasts and only saw each other very sporadically as kids, on the few occasions our family was able to travel from Southern California back to my father’s roots in North Carolina. Here’s a snapshot of Nicole and the wonderful work she does. Enjoy!
Nicole is a Money Mindset Master with a background in therapy and life coaching. Using a conversational, engaging, humor-infused approach to complex challenges, Nicole’s talks and coaching programs guide business owners, coaches, and healers to reveal and release their underlying blocks and barriers to financial abundance, so that they can master their mind, heal their heart, empower their future and make some damn money!
Nicole lives in Lancaster, Pennsylvania with her husband Jason and three fat, happy cats. It is well known that Nicole loves 80’s music, a good martini and heartfelt snark filled conversations with friends.
The Blessings Butterfly interviews Nicole Lewis-Keeber, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker)
TBB: For lack of a better term, what is your “role” now that you’ve started Nicole Lewis-Keeber Coaching? NL-K: Speaker/Money Mindset Expert/Life Coach/Therapist.
Tell me when and how you got started in your current business.NL-K: I rolled out the red carpet to my coaching business in March of 2015.
TBB: What inspired you to begin this Business? NL-K:I worked with my own Life Coach and the approaches she used changed everything for me. I wanted to do what she did and change lives in the way she had changed mine.
TBB: What were you doing before this? NL-K: After 18 years as a therapist I was feeling a bit burned out, well actually crispy! So I decided that I still wanted to help people but in a different way. I wanted to work with people on their goals and dreams and not their problems and diagnosis.
TBB: In what ways is your Business making a difference, or how do you hope that it will? NL-K: My business and coaching practice has made a difference in a way I had not anticipated. As a money mindset coach I have been helping women who have experienced trauma in their past, reveal and release it’s grip so they can earn more money and be more successful in their business.
TBB: What do you love the most about what you do? NL-K: Seeing someone make changes in their life to support their ability to earn more money and feel more confident. I LOVE the “I made more money this month then I have before in my business” emails!
TBB: If Current You could go back in time and share a message with You From 5 Years Ago (or 10, or High School- your choice) what advice would you give to yourself? NL-K: I would tell her to take going to the gym serious and to put down the chips. 🙂 I would also tell her that her life is about to change in ways she never imagined and to hold on to her horses! To believe in herself and the possibilities.
TBB: What is your favorite daily ritual, and why is it important to you? NL-K: I use EFT or Tapping as a tool in my tool kit and I use it daily to help me clear negative energy and blocks to allow for abundance and higher vibration. EFT is the practice of tapping on meridian points on the body to shift energy. It can be used to manage stress, deal with trauma and to release stuck energy that is connection to negative emotions.
TBB:This is very interesting! Can you tell me more about this? For people who are not familiar with EFT or Tapping, do you have any resources I can direct them to? NL-K: Sure! Here’s a link to aTapping Resource that you may find helpful.
TBB: Is there anything else you’d like to share, or advice that you can offer to anyone feeling “stuck”? NL-K: If you are stuck, triggered, in pain, or feeling “less than” it is because a part of you is sending you a message. Stop, breathe, and ask your inner voice or pain, what it needs to you to know. There is a gift and a message in each struggle, fear and doubt we have. I promise.
TBB: Thank you so much! If you’d like to get in touch with Nicole, you can reach out to her via Facebook (she does lots of Facebook Live videos too!), Twitter, or through the contact form on her website.
***NEW! Nicole has just launched her signature Transformational Wealth Training program and let me tell you it is JAM-PACKED with wisdom and hands-on skills training! From Nicole: “I have successfully worked with my clients to reveal and release the surprising hidden programing that has been keeping them from making more money, and stepping into their brilliance. I am excited to offer you an opportunity to reveal and release your own money blocks, by using the same techniques that have used to help my one-on-one clients. These techniques are powerful and up until now I have only used them with private clients.” If you would like more info, I invite you to check out Nicole’s program right here.
The funny thing about being known as a “happy person” or a “positive person” is that when (not IF) something triggers the ugly feelings to come up, or you are having a rough day, or you just want to hide yourself away from the rest of the world for a hot minute- you tell yourself that you can’t do that. Or maybe someone, well-meaning or otherwise, tells you that you can’t do that. Somehow, somewhere along the path you were told or shown that it’s not OK to not be OK.
Somehow, somewhere along the path you were told or shown that it’s not OK to not be OK.
And so there I was, having back-to-back ugly-emotion overloads and not giving myself the permission and the space to feel what I was feeling, because it wasn’t pretty enough. To be honest, I wasn’t sure how to deal with my feelings. They felt so foreign and unwelcome and inappropriate and a little scary. I WANT MY SUNSHINE AND SPARKLES, not this dark, gloomy, cloudy shitstorm! But the shitstorm came anyway, and this one was a Category 5, board up the windows, evacuate to higher ground level emotional event.
And so, I sat with my emotions. I let the noise in my head and my heart settle down as each uncomfortable feeling got my attention. With the help of my amazing coach (who also happens to be my cousin) Nicole Lewis-Keeber, I explored them all, without judgement. I tapped the shit out of that pent up energy, and found a place of calm within the shitstorm. And once I got there, I found exactly what I needed: Answers. Clarity. Comfort. Relief! To see a brief video of Nicole explaining the Emotional Freedom Technique (aka Tapping), click here.
The thing is, we ALL have a range of emotions that we feel. We ALL have a lifetime of experiences that shape us, that sometimes trigger uncomfortable feelings, that elicit a response from us that we may not know how to handle in the moment. We are going to have rough days sometimes. Yes, sadly, it’s not all rainbows and unicorns… And that’s absolutely, perfectly OK.