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Whole Self Love: a new series

WHOLE SELF LOVE: a new series

Oh, Honey- I have some things to say about this little #frenemy right here. It’s been a hot minute since I have shared much publicly about my physical body, and here’s why:

  • Dieting Sucks
  • Talking about dieting is capital B BORING
  • Diet Culture is toxicAF
  • The number on the scale does not determine (nor can it ever measure) my worth

I know this to be True. You probably do as well! (And yet…)

It’s why, for the past 4-5 years, I have made it my personal mission to learn how to Love the body I live in, every damn day. Regardless of my clothing size, weigh-in numbers, age, shape, wrinkles, lumps, flab, rolls, freckles, muscles, strength, etc ad nauseum. I’ve been helped tremendously on my body-positive journey by trailblazers like Jessamyn Stanley (@mynameisjessamyn), Amber Karnes (@amberkarnesofficial), Dianne Bondy (@diannebondyyoga) and most recently Tiana Dodson (@onebeautifulyes) who are all amazing and beautiful.

So, I pose these questions: What if Loving your Whole Self meant loving your entire body? What would it take for you to Love all your parts and welcome them into your Wholeness?

I’m practicing Radical Self Love & normalizing fat bodies, even as I continue to shed some weight & heal what’s hurting inside. I even have been taking a series of rather societally unflattering selfies as part of my whole-self Love medicine and posting them on my Instagram stories. (It feels insanely liberating, btw) I knew that I couldn’t begin to address my health issues without first being willing to really, REALLY Love all of me. Including the parts that weren’t as pretty, the parts that hurt, and the parts that were breaking down.

As of this writing, it’s been 3 weeks since I began a total shift in my relationships with food & exercise. With the help of an interactive app/virtual program I am not just learning about healthier ways to eat and move and less psychologically & emotionally damaging ways to think about those things, but I’m integrating these new habits every damn day that are supporting my whole self. I won’t lie, it’s been some hard word (first week was the worst) but through the effort I am putting in and the support received, I’ve seen and felt some pretty spectacular results, including my first 10+ lbs. shed; increased endurance; a dramatic reduction in pain in my back, knees, and feet; increased strength; no more chest pain or wheezing; no more bloating or food hangovers; fewer mood swings & more sustained energy; improved sleep and almost no more snoring.  All of this Love being poured into my body is coming back to me in these very tangible ways, and I am truly grateful. I am excited to see how much more my body and I can do.

More of this story to come, stay tuned!

Getting My Sexy Back

UPDATE: Since writing this entry in August 2019, I have developed a much healthier & more positive relationship with food, eating, exercise, and caring for my body in general. During the course of my program, I shed over 40 lbs.* (at an average of -2 lbs per week) and watched in amazement as my body composition began to change. I felt such pride at being able to go through my daily activities without feeling exhausted, and I have been delighted to have more physical activity, strength, and endurance become a natural part of my life. More incredibly, I have experienced the release of long-held pain in my body, specifically in my feet, knees, back and chest; released long-held beliefs about my worth being tied to my appearance; and released long-held habits of self-destructive thoughts & actions.

By coupling my mindset work with a refreshed self-care plan, I have discovered JOY in moving my body again, and I have developed a kind of confidence, acceptance and deep Love for the body that I have- lumps, bumps, folds, wrinkles, spots, flabby bits and all. How freeing to realize that I don’t need to look like a Victoria’s Secret model to feel sexy, beautiful, comfortable in my skin (things I never felt when I was an actual lingerie and bikini model).

It is my sincere hope and belief that I will continue to take good care of myself by using the tools that I’ve learned and keep learning. I have a great support system now to lean on when I need to, and I have empowered myself to be in charge of taking care of my Whole-Self… body, mind, and soul.

*No matter how much I stress that the size of my body is not that important, and no matter how much I believe and teach that you don’t have to lose weight before you can love your body- people are still always fascinated by my weight loss and ask me, “How did you do it?” So here it is: I signed up for Noom. If you would like to try their program for yourself, you can click here to use my affiliate link and get yourself 20% off.

Showing Up, Even When It Feels Scary

WHAT IF I JUST… SHOW UP 💖🦋

Amazingly beautiful and powerful shifts can take place within us whenever we begin to allow the magic within to come out of hiding and just… SHOW UP.

Yes- that means that you will need to be seen, be heard, be counted- and I know that even just reading these words can cause some feelings of panic, without even taking a single step!

I get it, showing up can sometimes feel really scary. I know this intimately! You may have a story inside you that includes a time when showing up somewhere caused you pain, or even a traumatic experience. Even if this is true for you, I still want to encourage you to SHOW UP whenever you sense that little glimmer of wanting to emerge from your hiding place, that opportunity to be seen and heard. There are ways for you to do this safely, supported by a strong and understanding community that doesn’t try to “fix” you- they just witness you and hold space for you.

The more that you allow yourself to show up, on your own terms and in your own way, the closer you get to reaching your goals, living your dreams, and conquering your fears of being seen. You get to take control and be the star of your life story, not play a minor role or resign yourself to the random twists of fate. You don’t have to have everything figured out first, and you don’t have to be perfect (not a real thing). Just… Show Up. Show up for yourself. Show up for your big dreams, your side hustle, and your day job. Show up for the souls bumping around throughout the world, crossing your path each day. Show up for every single lesson that Life is teaching you, and know that those of us here in your support circle are rooting for you and cheering you on.

Amazed and Grateful

OMG. She’s almost ready! We took another sneak peek yesterday of our house and so much more has been done. The sweet brick motor court is completed. Exterior is 95%. And inside, oh, my… I cannot wait to share what’s going on inside. It’s Beautiful.

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I am so very grateful for the life I have, and the Joy that I am a co-creatrix of. In my 20’s, my life was such a story of pain and struggle and desperately seeking to escape my suffering. It was a broken heart and a battered body. It was fear and fight. It was a wish for someone to save me, and it was a wish for something better. Little could I imagine then that Love and the power to change EVERYTHING was not external, but waiting to be discovered inside of me. I promise, it’s also inside of you.

💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #firstthoughts #buildingyourbestlife #inspiration #thereishope #loveyourselffree #selfloveheals #writer #author #speaker

Amazed and Grateful

OMG. She’s almost ready! We took another sneak peek yesterday of our house and so much more has been done. The sweet brick motor court is completed. Exterior is 95%. And inside, oh, my… I cannot wait to share what’s going on inside. It’s Beautiful.

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I am so very grateful for the life I have, and the Joy that I am a co-creatrix of. In my 20’s, my life was such a story of pain and struggle and desperately seeking to escape my suffering. It was a broken heart and a battered body. It was fear and fight. It was a wish for someone to save me, and it was a wish for something better. Little could I imagine then that Love and the power to change EVERYTHING was not external, but waiting to be discovered inside of me. I promise, it’s also inside of you.

💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #firstthoughts #buildingyourbestlife #inspiration #thereishope #loveyourselffree #selfloveheals #writer #author #speaker

A Look Inside Your Walls

BUILDING YOUR BEST LIFE: At the beginning of the weekend, my fiancé and I had our “open wall” walkthrough of the new house. This is the home as it looked on Friday morning, just prior to the next round of inspections. We met with our GC/Foreman and did a literal walk-through of the property, while the expert told us everything we could ever want to know about it. We were encouraged to ask questions, and found it fascinating to learn not only about the specific materials used, but why the builder is so particular about what goes into each home. It was a good feeling to be able to see behind the scenes and know that we are getting exactly what we want, without corners being cut or important steps being hidden. Fascinating! (No, really!)

So of course, it got me thinking: When we are building our own best life ever, how important is it to pause and check in with ourselves as the Master & Creator of our reality? How powerful is it for us to inspect our own internal “construction project” and see specifically What we are putting in, & Why it matters?

I love to help my clients see that we build the home that our souls live in every day, with every choice. It all matters. And you know what? You really do deserve to imagine, create, & build your own best life.

Schedule a free consultation call with me today to get started!

💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #empowermentcoach #visualization #manifesting #buildingyourbestlife #newhome #personaldevelopment #writer #author #speaker #inspiration

Lay Your Foundation

And this, Loves, is my new favorite spot in all the world.

This is what all of my hard work, sweat, tears, broken moments, lean years, struggle, surrender, heartaches, healing, rebuilding, inner work, learning to trust again, learning to Love again, joy, desire, positivity, ambition, goal setting, ideas, blessings, and magic is manifesting.

Join me for the journey over the next 6 months as my new home is built from this lot of dirt up. There are SO MANY life lessons to share!

Progress: Foundation has been poured, concrete is set. Framing is on schedule to begin this week. Impossibly blue sky, courtesy of Mother Nature.

We have been visiting our new home site every couple of weeks, just to revel in the excitement of it all. We take measurements in the model and geek out together over paint chips, flooring options, and dreamy furnishings. We visualize where artwork will be placed and wonder if we can DIY the wainscoting. It’s wonderful and ridiculous and so, so magical.

The Magic: More often than not, one of us will be caught staring at the other with love-filled eyes, like real life heart eyed emojis, and without fail one will say to the other, “Thank you for loving me so much.” 😍 👉 This is my Dream life, being lived out in real time. I am doing the work that I love, I am stretching myself and expanding a little more with each new opportunity, I am loving with my whole heart and receiving the same. I am deeply, genuinely Happy. I am bouncing back from my dark moments instead of spiraling down into an endless pit. I am shining my brightest light in order to really see, accept, and yes even learn to Love my darkness. This is what it feels like to be whole. 💖🦋

Here’s the life lesson: I wouldn’t be here if I hadn’t taken my first steps of reaching out for help. I wouldn’t be anywhere if I hadn’t asked for, and tried for a do-over. After going through hard times and lived trauma, you can rebuild your life. You can learn to embrace your shadow even as you shine your Light. You can create a strong, new foundation for yourself that allows you to love yourself radically, shift your perception of who and what you really are, and live your life beautifully. It takes work, and a support team, and guts to let go of those who don’t care about hurting you- but you are worth it and it is more than possible. You are already a survivor, you can also be a thriver! 💖🦋

If you think you may be ready to begin laying a new foundation for your life, don’t wait- start today. Use the free resources that are available to you. Take the first steps, even if they are teeny tiny ones. Reach out for coaching, I am available and would be honored to help you. Grab a free consultation call with me, let’s see how we can work together. There’s always a way.

#theblessingsbutterfly #inspiration #empowermentcoach #speaker #liveyourbestlife #motivation

#MondayMantra I Love My Body!

Loving my body is a daily choice, independent of my dress size or the number on a scale.

Taking good care of myself can mean many things: commitment to moving daily, eating foods that nourish and bring joy to my body instead of pain, speaking kindly to and about myself, tuning in to what signals my soul is sending.

This mantra can help you focus on loving your body no matter what size or shape you are currently living in. “I love my body and take good care of her each day.”

How are you choosing to take good care of yourself today?


#theblessingsbutterfly #positiveenergy #positivevibes #positivity #selfhelp #selfcare #bodypositive #mondaymantra #mondaymotivation #inspiration #setyourintention #healthymindset #loveyourbody #loveyourcurves

#FridayFeels Carpe Diem

Carpe Diem = Seize the Day

Today is what you have. Today!

You have an amazing day in front of you, what will you do with it? How will you spend your precious time, who will you tell that you love them, how many people will be blessed by your smile? 

What challenges will you rise to, where will you shine? Which dragon will you slay, which demon will you stare down? Who gets to see your victory dance? How many times will you LAUGH. OUT. LOUD.

Today, Darling, TODAY is the day that you have, so for the love of all that is holy, Carpe the shit of this Diem!