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Lean Into Your Weird

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What’s one of the weirdest things about you? What makes you unique, special, gifted? Since I started to embrace and lean into my weird and share about what makes me different, I have been able to use my gifts to help others and do work that I love, whether it’s intuitive readings or animal energy work or transformational healing.

I am very fortunate to have been gifted with the supremely weird and highly magickal ability to communicate energetically with most animals. To do this, I first survey their body language if available, then connect with the animal’s energy field, and ask if they would like to talk with me or if they have something they wish to share. Think along the lines of a “whisperer” to get the idea. With most domestic animals and pets, I can pick up their thoughts, read their energy, and communicate with them fairly easily, even over a great distance. I always love when I am invited to share a pet’s message with his or her human. You can book an Animal Energy Session with me if you have questions for your beloved pet.

Friends who have traveled with me can vouch for the fact that I can even call some species in their own tongue- dolphins and wolves especially- and have them respond. There was the time in the Virgin Islands when we were in the bay at St. John’s, and I kept sensing dolphins nearby. Our captain said that dolphins aren’t normally in this particular area, but I felt them so I called nonetheless. Moments later, a mama dolphin and her calf appeared not 20 feet from our boat! Sorry, no pics for this one as it happened so quickly!

On a recent trip to Alaska, we visited a private wildlife rescue/sanctuary for animals that have been injured in the wild. They are given care and rehabilitated, but their injuries are such that they wouldn’t survive a reintroduction to the surrounding forests. One of the animal residents is a beautiful wolf. I was invited to call out to her and see if she would respond. I went deep into my bones and called up a howl that told her, “I see you, and I am here with you.” If you would like to watch the video of our call and response, you can do that here: Watch the Video

During this same visit, I was also invited to chat with the local mink, and I was absolutely delighted to be able to connect with moose, caribou, bobcat, wolverine, and a grizzly. Amazing time.

And, in one of the wildest and most dramatic displays of my weird gift ever, a couple of years ago in France I healed a bat who had been attacked by a cat. The little bat appeared on the side of the house in broad daylight, which caught our attention (and that of Lulu the house cat).

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Lulu with little bat in her mouth. Thank you to Hilda for capturing this photo!

The little bat fell from her perch and tumbled down the wall two stories to the ground, and we all collectively gasped in horror as Lulu pounced on the poor little thing and proceeded to carry her with her teeth to where we were sitting in the courtyard. I insisted to Lulu that she drop the bat and leave her alone; Lulu preferred to intimidate and “play” with the poor terrified creature for a few minutes longer before grudgingly obeying me. I can’t be mad at Lulu, she was just doing what cats do. My hosts and colleagues moved back, and I moved in closer, kneeling down and talking softly to the little bat and calming her with my voice. I assured her that she was now safe, and that no further harm would come to her. This lasted for about 20-30 minutes, and it was excruciating to hear her little squeals from the pain and terror she had just experienced. Her breathing slowed, then appeared to stop altogether, but our eyes were still locked together and I could still feel her life-energy. I whispered, “The choice is yours, little one. You can let go now if you want to, or you can get up and fly away.” Moments later, she gasped, turned herself onto her belly, and proceeded to fly away up and over the trees. I was ready to collapse myself, as I had never before held such a powerful healing connection with an animal. Not gonna lie, it kinda freaked me out to realize what I was capable of. The looks on my hosts and colleagues faces? Jaws. Dropped.

I actually injured myself with that healing session because I was physically unprepared for it, and the folx around me didn’t know how to support me during the encounter energetically. I don’t blame them for this, it was a weird as hell experience and quite unexpected for all of us. My back went into painful seizure for the remainder of my trip. I did learn from it though, and should such a need for healing intervention arise again, I will know to ask those around me to hold sacred space for me and the animal.

So, why do I share all of this weirdness and woo with you? Because for far too long, I kept much of it hidden out of fear. Very rarely did I let anyone in on just how deeply weird I am, and how much that weirdness delights me. I don’t want to waste any more of my precious time on this earth hiding the weird shit that makes me a certain kind of awesome. I am and have always been and will always be a magickal, witchy woman. My abilities and practices are definitely too weird and out there for some people, and that’s okay because I’m not here to be everyone’s cup of tea. I am here in service to the Spiritual-But-Not-Religious, the Beautiful Weirdos, the Woo-Curious, the Unapologetically Unique among us. I see you, and I am here with you. Howl, Bitches!

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Transformational Positivity and the 4 Pillars

What is Transformational Positivity?

TRANSFORMATIONAL POSITIVITY is a set of healing tools and positive practices used to form a framework for manifesting, experiencing, and supporting our Deep, Personal Transformation within these 4 key areas: Self, Community, Nature, and Spirit. Each of these 4 key areas is supported by it’s own pillar.

The 4 Pillars- in a nutshell

The 4 Pillars of Transformational Positivity represent the most important relationships of our human existence, with each one relating to and supporting one of the 4 key areas. The 4 key areas are Connection to Self, Connection to Community, Connection to Nature, and Connection to Divine Spirit.

The First Pillar: WHOLE-SELF LOVE

The First Pillar: Whole-Self Love

[Key Area = Connection to Self] Who are you? How do you see yourself? How do you talk to and about yourself? What makes you YOU? Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? How well do you take care of yourself? How do you relate to the body you live in? Do you know, understand, realize, accept, see, believe in who and what you really are at the core of your being?

Most of us get so tripped up in this first key area that we waste years, decades, lifetimes focusing the majority of our energy, attention, and hard-earned cash only on our physical appearance while neglecting to gain an intimate understanding, appreciation, and genuine Love for who we are inside, aka The Real Us. And/Or, we have to unpack so many layers of bad programming and painful lived experiences that the idea of “Self Love” seems like a bridge too far.

This is one of the first areas where many people meet me. Typically, they are looking for some Positivity tools & training to supplement the deeper healing work they are already doing with their therapist.

How Can I Help?

I’m not a therapist, or a psychologist, or a psychiatrist so I am not qualified to diagnose or treat any medical, mental, or emotional health issues. What I can do for my clients is provide additional support, spiritual guidance, and teach positive practices help assist in strengthening your relationship to Self.

Additional reading about the First Pillar: Whole-Self Love

The Second Pillar: SERVING WITH JOY

The Second Pillar: Serving With Joy

[Key Area = Connection to Community] Which communities do you most identify with? What are some of the various roles you have played or are currently playing in your different communities? What do you need in order to feel like you are seen, heard, and a valued part of your community? How are you contributing? How are you receiving? Where are you serving with the most Joy?

“Community” includes all of the other humans we interact with outside of ourselves. Some of these relationships are knit closer to us than others- family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, colleagues. While other relationship threads are going to be much thinner and stretched over a greater distance, it is important to recognize that in the most basic sense we are all connected in some way.

If we can understand that the First Pillar is about Who We Are, then we can recognize that the Second Pillar is about Why We Are Here.

Whenever clients come to me looking for guidance in this area, it’s typically because they are struggling to find meaningful ways to connect in their communities. Their “Why” isn’t showing up in ways that feel in alignment with who they are and how they are seen by the people in their communities. They feel unfulfilled because their is no reciprocal Joy that they are experiencing.

How Do I Help?

I help my clients to look for opportunities that they may be missing. I guide them through shifts in their mindset to see a new perspective. We work on actions that they can take to create new, more positive connections in their various communities.

Additional reading about the Second Pillar: Serving With Joy

The Third Pillar: NATURAL HARMONY

The Third Pillar: Natural Harmony

[Key Area = Connection to Nature] How do you most like to connect with Nature? Which of these natural settings makes you feel the most energized, relaxed, peaceful, or awestruck: Ocean, Mountains, Forest, Desert, Prairie? When was the last time you spent the night stargazing? Are you an animal lover? Tree hugger? Aspiring gardener? Rock-hound and crystal wearer? Where is your nearest green space, and how often do you visit?

The modern era that we live in with its many conveniences and high-level technology has in many ways caused us to dramatically disconnect from the natural world. On a global scale, the push for more more more shows that we have all but abandoned our stewardship of the earth and instead are continuing to consume her vast and varied resources at an unsustainable rate, wreaking havoc on ecosystems, pushing fragile and necessary plants and animals to extinction. Life does not simply begin and end with us; we are part of something much more and we all share a responsibility for the health of our planet.

When my clients are seeking help in this area, it’s typically because they have lost touch with ways to unplug from the daily grind.

We are spending on average 1/3 of our lives- that’s like 90,000 hours of your life- at work, in an office (don’t read this article from Business Insider unless you want to be thoroughly depressed) plus all the time spent commuting to and from (more depressing stats from the Washington Post here) and it’s all leaving our daily connection to and harmony with the natural world as an afterthought, a luxury, or a “someday” dream.

How Do I Help?

I help my clients to create simple ways to restore their connection to Nature so that they can regularly recharge their energy.

Additional reading about the Third Pillar: Natural Harmony

The Fourth Pillar: EXPLORING YOUR DIVINITY

The Fourth Pillar: Explore Your Divinity

[Key Area = Connecting with Spirit] What does your current connection to divinity look like? How does spirituality play out in your daily life? Where do you experience the Divine? Are you able to separate religion and doctrine from spiritual practices? If you could SEE your own Spirit, your life-force, your essence- how would you describe it? What does she/he/they look like? Do you know the guides and energies on your spiritual support team, your Spirit Council?

After all, we are so much more than just our physical flesh and blood, more than what we can see and touch;we are magnificent spiritual beings having a human experience. We ARE each an expression of divinity! This is especially powerful when you consider the positive characteristics that are commonly ascribed to the Divine:

love

joy

peace

creativity

transcendence

blessings

abundance

truth

eternal

holy

sacred

beauty

goodness

generosity

justice

mercy

powerful

liberation

sovereignty

knowledge

wisdom

healing

compassion

empathy

This is probably the most “woo woo” area that people find me to begin work together, and I FREAKING LOVE IT. This isn’t about rules and religion; this is about exploring the ultimate in healing energy. Connecting with Spirit allows us to have a deeper understanding of the divine traits within ourselves, so that we can embody and express them in our human experience.

We get to do this today, in this lifetime- not just in some faraway afterlife. Whether it is connecting with and sharing messages from your Spirit Council during a Spiritual Clarity Reading, or helping you to create more positive connections with the divinity within and around you, this is some of my favorite work of all.

How Do I Help?

I support your exploration of sacred and spiritual practices, and help you to develop your own intuition. I help my clients to differentiate the freedom of spirituality from religion.

Additional reading about the Fourth Pillar: Exploring [Your] Divinity

Why does Positivity matter?

Positivity improves our connections to self, to community, to nature, and to spirit. When any of these connections are weak, damaged, or removed we experience collapse in the relationship. Therefore, it is vital to the health of our relationship to each of these 4 key areas that we do the work of examining where we are at, where we want to be, and what if anything needs to change.

For some of us, it means doing some deeper work of healing old wounds, rewriting our old narratives, and learning how to do Life in a whole new way- or even just a slightly different, more empowered, satisfyingly positive way. One thing is for sure- we won’t be engaging in any toxic positivity. No spiritual bypassing. And definitely no gaslighting.

Wherever you may be on your journey, whatever level of awakening you are in, you can find guidance and support from me that will help you to cultivate Positivity in any or all of these 4 key areas of connection.

How To Get Started

Soul-Mirroring Session & 4 Pillars Assessment

The way we begin our Transformational Positivity work together is through a Soul-Mirroring Session. This is a 1:1, deep-look together in which we talk about where you are, what you want, and where you want to go.

I have an incredible gift of being able to truly see YOU, and will share what I see from a spiritual energy perspective. We will do a 4 Pillars Assessment and create a plan for ways that you can begin to cultivate & integrate Transformational Positivity in the area(s) of your choosing.

Schedule a Soul-Mirroring Session with me today and let’s get started!

A Spiritual Coach’s Journey: Preach What You Practice (and vice-versa)

Me: Be Your Own SHEro👊🏼

Also Me: Capricorn on the cusp of Sagittarius ✌️

Still Me: Pray, Meditate, Believe, Manifest 🙏

A word for my fellow coaches:

I’ve been a spiritual seeker all of my life, and was fascinated by astrology, witchcraft and the occult as a kid, even as I was going to Sunday School in a little baptist church with my bestie and her family. My parents always encouraged me to explore the world through books and research, and never forced any particular religious views on me though they both had traditional religion as part of their own upbringing.

My journey towards eternal truth has been a wonderfully weird mix of Church, God, Astrology, Tarot, Mysticism, Jesus, Self-Help, Therapy, and Buddhism. A total spiritual mutt! Always growing, always learning, always seeking, always evolving. At different points along my path, I was more intently focused on one practice or another, at some points denouncing “one way” only to pick it back up in a familiar embrace years later. I am constantly learning that there truly are many trails to the top of the mountain, and at any time you can choose the one you want to walk along.

In my role as a personal Empowerment Coach, I do allow room for my spirituality and personal self-care practices to inform my work as it applies to each individual client- yet I hesitate to brand myself as a “spiritual coach” as that just doesn’t feel like the right fit for me. It’s not a mantle I am comfortable wearing, but that doesn’t mean you can’t if you feel so called.

With the most recent pushback and distancing from traditional religion, clearly there is a huge emerging market for people interested in embracing alternative spirituality, and with that comes the opportunity to provide offerings/services that cater to this demographic. The responsibility however is on us as leaders to avoid cultural appropriation and truly heal from an aligned heart of love, light, and compassion. Doesn’t mean we cannot have a solid and profitable business, just… don’t be a dick about it, you know?

I can tell you that the world needs your wisdom, it doesn’t need more “Yoga for Slimmer Thighs!” or some nonsense shit like that.

If you as a self-proclaimed spiritual coach lead from a religious background, please do so in the true spirit of Love and transparency, without judgment and hypocrisy. If you are exploring astrology, the Tarot, Yoga, or non-western healing modalities and incorporate these into your professional practice, please remember to include cultural context and be careful not to bastardize these practices just to make a quick dollar. Again, don’t be a dick about it- actually practice what you preach.

I am truly grateful for the many wonderful teachers, guides, and mentors I’ve been able to learn from over the years. I am especially grateful for those who have helped me to tune in to my inner wisdom, that deep knowledge that comes from doing the hard, brave work of exploration and messy healing. Having these amazing people in my orbit has given me the green light to move forward in the direction of my biggest dreams, align my heart & spirit, and face down the gnarliest of my fears.

When we share our journey authentically and invite our clients to explore their own path to healing, we engage in an awesome opportunity to teach and pass along these ancient traditions and rituals to a generation that is seeking truth. It is rich and ripe, beautiful and powerful, and anything but superficial.That is what truly spiritual coaching looks like to me. 💖🦋