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A Quick Self Check-Up for Working With Your Shadow-Self

It is thought that each person we encounter is in some way a mirror of ourselves (and vice versa). This is comforting whenever we see aspects that are considered positive or admirable, but when we see the worst in someone? Oof. Well, that’s not exactly fun. Especially when you consider that we are equally capable of unleashing some nasty, unpleasant, and downright awful behavior of our own. Sorry to tell ya, but “Love and Light” isn’t all that we are made of. We also carry hurt, anger, hatred, unhealed trauma, sadness, and a whole lot of darkness throughout our time on this planet. Self-awareness is a powerful and important first step in healing and transformation, and it will require you to do some work with the deeper, darker, shadowy sides of yourself. It’s big work, and not to be taken lightly. It can often lead to unlocking some traumatic memories, so it’s best to do this type of healing with guidance from a trauma-informed professional (therapist, counselor, or spiritual healer). If you are ready, I invite you to take a few minutes and, using a recent unpleasant interaction as your guide, take a quick self check-up. Here are some questions/journal prompts to consider: • Without filtering your responsewhat did you like and dislike most about that person? Write it all down. Don’t censor yourself, this is important information to gather. • Again, without filtering your responsewhat did you like and dislike most about your interaction or conversation with that person? Write it all down. Don’t censor yourself, this also is important information. • Feelings Inventory- How did your interaction or conversation with the person make you feel? Go back to what you wrote and underline the words that stand out and evoke a strong emotion or reaction. • Integrity ReflectionHow do any of your negative thoughts towards this person and your interaction or conversation with them relate back to yourself? Without judgement, notice any ways that your own words, attitudes or actions may have created these same hard or negative feelings in someone else- either intentionally or not. Now, take a deep breath and look over what you’ve written. Notice any shifts in your energy and emotions. What comes up for you? • Moving Forward- Now that you have had a good “look in the mirror” it’s important to recognize where are you showing up well, and where you need to do some more shadow-integration work. It’s very important to be extra-gentle and kind with yourself, especially if you’ve had a realization that some of your own inner-asshole behavior has just been checked. You may also sense a need to ask for and/or offer forgiveness at this point- explore that, and if it is safe for you to do so, consider what those next steps might look like. Becoming more self-aware is not always easy and isn’t always full of sparkles & rainbows, but it is absolutely vital to our personal growth. Doing a quick self check-up like this is one way to keep yourself on a positive path towards your best self.
Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Beautiful Weirdo

Once I realized that I am not just “weird” but that in fact I am a Beautiful Weirdo, well honey everything else just fell into place around me.

I stopped trying to be anyone other than my own self, in all of my wonderful weirdness, because THAT is my special sauce.

I own my sky-high optimism, and my self-searching shadowy moments of fear & doubt. I shit rainbows and hold space for people in my faerie dust, covered in golden Light and wrapped in unstoppable, unbreakable Love. I believe in believing in you, in me, and in our own immeasurable power to create positive change within and all around us, no matter how hard or challenging the path forward may be.

So cheers to you, my Friend, if in reading this you might see a glimpse of yourself, too. You can totally sit at my table. Know that you are not alone. Know that you are allowed to shine your bright, beautiful, Weirdo light.

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Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Choose to See the Beauty

My simple prayer for us all today: “May you see all the Beauty today.” 💖🦋

Do you make it a point to regularly observe Beauty? Not to objectify it, but to actually see the Beauty that is in and around you, and in everyone? It’s a powerful practice of positivity that has helped me to heal some pretty deep wounds over my *many* years on the planet. Even if you have your shit together, I invite you to take time today to look and see Beauty. Celebrate it! Share it!

Ugly Truth: It’s not at all hard to see the bad, the brutal, and the downright ugly in and around us. You really don’t have to go far to find it- we humans carry it with us wherever we go. If I’m being honest, I will admit that I can become so overwhelmed by the darkness in the world that it is sometimes paralyzing. Even now, I can only take the daily news in small bites, because the regular onslaught of bad is like a donkey kick to my guts, making me just weep and ache for the world. Not fun.

Like so many of us, I have been deeply hurt and affected by the darkness in others, so I am not only aware of but truly fearful of the same ugly that coexists inside of me. Do you ever catch yourself being kind of awful and think to yourself, “Whoa, did I really just say that? Did I really think that?” Again, not fun.

It’s astonishing how much power we carry around in our being, and how easy it is for us to “give in” to our own shit. I know that I am not so different from those whose actions I might see as disgusting, hurtful, hateful. Though I may choose to act in Love & Light more often than not, I know I am capable of being just as horrible as the worst person if I want to be.

How to Not Be a Horrible, Hateful Asshole: I believe that we must not ignore or bypass those dark things inside and around us, nor dwell in their brutality- but in order to not be overpowered by their [our] ugliness, we must continually look for and find the Beauty around us, and in us. Grow that. Recognize and nurture and celebrate that Beauty each day. We always have a choice! Today, I choose to see all the Beauty. 💖🦋 #theblessingsbutterfly #empowermentcoach #inspirational #speaker #seethebeauty

Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Inspiration: Doing Hard Things

#MondayMantra I can do hard things.

Sometimes, usually when I am trying something new or stretching myself in some kind of way- I forget just how many hard things I’ve already done and that I am on the other side of now.

It’s a powerful thing to be able to pause and briefly look back at just how very fucking far you’ve come. Summon up your inner badass, the one inside you who helped you push through and grow past those old obstacles.

Remind yourself: Yes, Love, YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS.

Once you’ve taken that in, breathe deep and step forward into your new next level.

Go take a long look in your mirror and tell this to that person looking back at you: You are Amazing & You Can Do Hard Things. 💖🦋

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Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

A Spiritual Coach’s Journey: Preach What You Practice (and vice-versa)

Me: Be Your Own SHEro👊🏼 Also Me: Capricorn on the cusp of Sagittarius ✌️ Still Me: Pray, Meditate, Believe, Manifest 🙏 A word for my fellow coaches: I’ve been a spiritual seeker all of my life, and was fascinated by astrology, witchcraft and the occult as a kid, even as I was going to Sunday School in a little baptist church with my bestie and her family. My parents always encouraged me to explore the world through books and research, and never forced any particular religious views on me though they both had traditional religion as part of their own upbringing. My journey towards eternal truth has been a wonderfully weird mix of Church, God, Astrology, Tarot, Mysticism, Jesus, Self-Help, Therapy, Witchcraft, and Buddhism. A total spiritual mutt! Always growing, always learning, always seeking, always evolving. At different points along my path, I was more intently focused on one practice or another, at some points denouncing “one way” only to pick it back up in a familiar embrace years later. I am constantly learning that there truly are many trails to the top of the mountain, and at any time you can choose the one you want to walk along. In my role as a personal Empowerment Coach, I do allow room for my spirituality and personal self-care practices to inform my work as it applies to each individual client- yet I hesitate to brand myself as a “spiritual coach” as that just doesn’t feel like the right fit for me. It’s not a mantle I am comfortable wearing, but that doesn’t mean you can’t if you feel so called. With the most recent pushback and distancing from traditional religion, clearly there is a huge emerging market for people interested in embracing alternative spirituality, and with that comes the opportunity to provide offerings/services that cater to this demographic. The responsibility however is on us as leaders to avoid cultural appropriation and truly heal from an aligned heart of love, light, and compassion. Doesn’t mean we cannot have a solid and profitable business, just… don’t be a dick about it, you know? I can tell you that the world needs your wisdom, it doesn’t need more “Yoga for Slimmer Thighs!” or some nonsense shit like that. If you as a self-proclaimed spiritual coach lead from a religious background, please do so in the true spirit of Love and transparency, without judgment and hypocrisy. If you are exploring astrology, the Tarot, Yoga, or non-western healing modalities and incorporate these into your professional practice, please remember to include cultural context and be careful not to bastardize these practices just to make a quick dollar. Again, don’t be a dick about it- actually practice what you preach. I am truly grateful for the many wonderful teachers, guides, and mentors I’ve been able to learn from over the years. I am especially grateful for those who have helped me to tune in to my inner wisdom, that deep knowledge that comes from doing the hard, brave work of exploration and messy healing. Having these amazing people in my orbit has given me the green light to move forward in the direction of my biggest dreams, align my heart & spirit, and face down the gnarliest of my fears. When we share our journey authentically and invite our clients to explore their own path to healing, we engage in an awesome opportunity to teach and pass along these ancient traditions and rituals to a generation that is seeking truth. It is rich and ripe, beautiful and powerful, and anything but superficial.That is what truly spiritual coaching looks like to me. 💖🦋
Michelle Lewis (she/her/they) is the creator & founder of The Blessings Butterfly, a holistic coaching & energy healing practice that is teaching people to live a life that they love. She is a writer, speaker, energy witch/healer, and author of the Amazon bestselling positive affirmation books, The Blessings Butterfly and The Blessings Butterfly Companion Guide Having worked hard for decades to overcome severely traumatic events that began in her early childhood and repeated in painful, looping patterns well into her adult life, Michelle is passionate about using her gifts and wisdom in bringing hope and healing to millions. This is more than “mindset hacks” and “Pollyanna” positivity. Through the work of what she calls Transformational Positivity, Michelle helps her clients to get clear on where to shift their thoughts and actions, while dismantling the culture of toxic positivity.

Inspiration: Doing Hard Things

Sometimes, usually when I am trying something new or stretching myself in some kind of way- I forget just how many hard things I’ve already done and am on the other side of now.

It’s a powerful thing to be able to pause and briefly look back at just how very fucking far you’ve come. Summon up your inner badass, the one inside you who helped you push through and grow past those old obstacles.

Remind yourself that, Yes, Love, YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS.

Once you’ve taken that in, breathe deep and step forward into your new next level. You Can Do Hard Things. 💖🦋

#theblessingsbutterfly #empowermentcoach #empowerment #youvegotthis #embraceyourpower #youcandohardthings #nextlevel #believe #believeinyourself

#FridayFeels Live Your Dream Life

How do I know that I’m living the Dream?

When I’m sitting in my cozy home office, recording a Sparkle Hour podcast episode with my beloved cousin and one of our hot shit dream guests, and I suddenly get a surprise drop in from my son… delivering me a gift of Venti deliciousness and $$!

I have a million more reasons to be grateful and tons of evidence that I’m living my dream life, and I want that for you, too. Big wins + little luxuries, joy + ecstasy, mind-blowing wonder + everyday eternal wisdom. Life abundantly lived. You, shining. 💖🦋

Reach out to me today to schedule your free chat and let’s get you on the road to living the life of your dreams. I would love to be a guide for you on your journey. 1:1 coaching packages are currently available.

Qualified to Coach

One of the things I enjoy the most about being an entrepreneur is the seemingly magical ability to create a career that I love. After decades of working for others, always learning & growing, testing & changing, and leaping faithfully into new ventures of my own, as a Life Coach I am grateful to be rooted in work that supports me financially & emotionally, beautifully uses all of my gifts, talents, & experiences, and fits perfectly into my schedule.

I get to write, create, talk, share, teach, travel, learn, encourage, inspire, and empower.

I get to try and fail and try again.

I get to embrace my curiosity, experiment and explore.

I get to be ALL IN, be Brave, and be Open.

Sounds great, right? It IS! But there is something that has nagged at me along the way, and I will be willing to bet that it is something that has nagged at you too at one time or another. That something is the scolding, condescending little voice of self-doubt that just can’t wait to pop up and whisper with a snarl, “Who do you think you are?”

GULP. Who indeed? After all, I don’t have some of the credentials that many other people do, including people in my chosen field of self-help and coaching. Even many of the brilliant people whom I partner with have some pretty impressive laurels to rest on, and if I’m being honest there are times that this has felt intimidating and made me want to hide in shame and self-doubt. Can you relate?

Here’s how I remind Little Miss Shut Your Face to take a seat when she starts up with the “who do you think you are” crap:

  • Thank you for your input, and you’re right, I don’t have any advanced degrees beside my name, but here’s what you’re forgetting
    • I studied Literature at CSULB
    • I studied Creative Writing at LBCC
    • I studied Art and Graphic Design at Cerritos College
    • I studied Christian Ministry at HIU
  • Also,
    • I am a Certified Massage Therapist
    • I am a Certified Yoga For All teacher
    • I am a trained Life Coach
  • And,
    • I have over two decades of practical ministry experience working with children, adolescents, and women
    • I have trained and led dozens of international short term mission teams into Kenya, China, and Mexico
    • I have trained and led dozens of volunteer teams working with various populations of local homeless people
    • I have served with high-level executives, coordinated major events, worked in academia, and served on a Board of Directors
    • I co-founded an effort to train and assist HIV+ AIDS widows in Kenya so that these amazing single moms could learn artisan skills and become self-sustaining
  • Not to mention,
    • I escaped from my own personal Hell of incredibly violent, abusive relationships and have done my work to completely break free from that cycle
    • I know what it feels like to live in constant fear, to suffer great pain and shame, to feel deep regret, and I know what it took to heal from all that trauma
    • I am continuously putting my healing and learning into practice, gladly sharing any tools and tips with those who want them
    • I am spiritually gifted with Empathy, Compassion, Wisdom, and Deep Listening

 

I have to be honest and tell you that it feels a little weird to list off my qualifications and realize, Hey, that’s actually Me. Like, I don’t want to brag, buuuttt… And here’s the thing, it actually isn’t bragging so much as it is becoming comfortable with who I am, what I’ve learned, and what I have to offer as my contribution to this life. So the next time your own Little Miss Shut Your Face pipes up and tries to feed on your insecurity, invite her to take a seat and then proceed to list your own qualifications. Go ahead, brag a little. Dare to be impressed with how far you’ve come, and don’t be afraid to step up and claim your spot. You’ve earned it!

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#MondayMantra On Facing Disappointment

Sometimes, people disappoint you. Sometimes, you disappoint other people- or even Yourself.

An important key to healing is to allow the uncomfortable feelings, and learn the lessons that are presented in the situation without falling down into a pit of negativity.

Instead of choosing blame or shame, try choosing to see one thing that you can be grateful for- one positive lesson that you can take away and build on for the next time.

Today's #MondayMantra is a positive mindset shift for when you are facing disappointment. "Even when I am disappointed, I can be grateful for the lessons learned."

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#MondayMantra 

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Ready for a powerful and positive mindset shift? This #MondayMantra is exactly that: “My obstacles are designed to Redirect and Empower me, not to hold me back.” 

The truth is that we will face a variety of obstacles on the way to our goals, but this doesn’t have to be a bad thing! Tests & trials are all part of the game, and their purpose is to sharpen and strengthen us along our path. It’s only a setback if you decide that it is, so take the power back and find the lesson your obstacle is trying to teach you about yourself. You’ve got this!